Stay at home mom

Im a stay at home mom this year which I am really excited about. I have been a teacher for 6 years and loved it but always felt like I was missing being home with the kids. I have a 3 year old and a 4 month old. My problem is, my husband thinks what I do now isnt work. 3 days a week I watch another child on top of our own- a 12 month old, 18 month old and a 2.5 year old. The other 2 days a week I take or daughter to speech therapy and then to and from school. Also on Wednesdays I watch the 18 month old for 11 hours starting at 5:45 am. During all this I keep the house cleaned and picked up, do laundry , take care of our 2 dogs, mop, vacuum, do dishes, pick up dog poop, get paperwork handled, make food....and watch and play with the kids! He tells me his job is more important then mine. I stayed at home, yes, so I could be at home with the kids but also so my husband could take his promotion to work days. He thinks I owe him. I work my butt off all day to do the best I can and it doesn't seem to be enough. I now have to pick up another job after he gets home from work to bring in more money. I am so exsausted and I dont mind doing that for the family if I got just some appreciation.am I asking too much? What should I do? I jyst want to feel like what I do is important too. I try to tslk to him about it but it just turns into a match of what I do wrong. Ill take any advice please!

Have you made a list of the daily duties that need done? Fill in a planner for your upcoming week, then sit him down to show him. Sounds as if he holds no value in his own family household instead his value is his boss's household. Tell him that, if he's bright, he will get it.