I'm in love with some one in recovery

i have fallen for a girl who had been through rehabilitation for her drug problems. I meet her right before she graduated from her halfway home. I've been through a lot in my previous relationships and have many doubts on my end if i would be good for her. At first i thought it was just infatuation, but now my heart pounds every time i think about her. All i want to do is be the best damn man i can be for her now, but its difficult to even see her when she is running a halfway home now. She has to set a good example for her girls that she takes care of. I know she cares about me, but she has to do whats best for her, and really needs to put her self first. Am I doing the right thing by being supportive? Or am i just being a crutch?

Dear Staystrong, Thank you for your openness and honesty! Everyone deserves a second chance; Her, with the mistakes she made in the past and you from your previous relationships. She is focused and dedicated to sticking to her sobriety. If she is running and taking care of women that were in her similar situation, that is a sign that she is well passed her initial recovery stage. She'll know how to avoid triggers and probably has a support group to help her in times of stress. Why do you feel like you'll be bad for her? If you have anything involved in your life that has any negative effect on her progression she'll probably tell you from the jump that it won't work. There is nothing wrong with you rooting for her and supporting her. I doubt that you are being a crutch for her. Like I said, you should make sure you don't have anyone in your inner circle that do drugs or drink, or you involved in any drug use. If she's serious about staying sober and bettering herself, perhaps being focused on other people staying sober helps her. You have to respect her decision and let her know about your feelings and that when she feels stronger that you'll be there for her. Good luck!

If she knows that you like her then she just needs to be at a point where she is personally strong enough to take on a relationship. Supporting her efforts to help others show that you are selfless and willing to wait for her. Give her the time and it will as long as that is what you both want.