Trouble with intimacy

I've been in a relationship for over 3 years and still struggle with intimacy. I enjoy sex but hate to initiate it. He wants me to initiate it, he likes cuddling, hugs and kisses, the intimacy that couples experience together. I want to be able to initiate sex without fear of rejection, I want to put on lingerie without feeling embarrassed, I want to know how to plan a romantic evening after the kids go to bed or a evening together that shows him it's all about him. I want more sex....he says to get more sex, initiate it more, if I want more romance be more romantic, if I want more of his time make more time for him, the kind of time he needs. I struggle with several issues, anxiety, depression, the list goes on so I know that these things don't help me overcome my problems with intimacy.....I want the same relationship as him I just don't know what steps to take to get there.

Dear Nikkirae, First of all, thank you for your honesty and openness. Guys like to feel like they are wanted and desired just like us sometimes. I too, would prefer my guy to initiate sex all the time but, there is nothing wrong with being the pursuer and heating him up one evening. He probably would very much appreciate it! As far as your issues... You said you have issues with being rejected- you've been with him for three years! I doubt he would turn you away, especially if it is something he wants from you. As far as romance, you already have a good idea. Make him think its just like any other night... Cook dinner, clean up- perhaps have him play with the kids and get them ready for bed. Then just get freshened up, put on a cute nightie, maybe a little make up and perfume. Then wait for him on the couch. Act completely normal- he'll notice you immediately. You can initiate sex from here just by changing clothes. He might take a course of action and take the lead from here. Be brave and remember- he wants you!

No man is going to reject the advances of the woman he loves. Spice it up by doing it in different places such as the living room, the car on the beach. Try some of the love lotion for men and women to add some heat to action.