Breaking up after 3 years

It sounds like this started out as a happy day! Good on you for taking the initiative to take the guy out for a change. I wouldn't have read too much into it though - sometimes people just don't want to go out! There may not be an ulterior meaning behind it but I would have recommended asking him if there was anything wrong before coming to conclusions... Have you ever had days where you just want to relax and do not want to go out? This was probably just what he was feeling and just wanted to relax - communication is key - perhaps try talking to him and engaging with what he is doing; join in with the PS4 games - then he has no choice but to communicate with you! This comment started out as happy for example - "I couldn't be happier that day" however now you suddenly say "I felt ignored and unwanted"; therefore it sounds to me that there are unresolved issues here that perhaps you've not mentioned. It seems like you have tried to put the effort in to take him out and then you feel like it has been wasted. I think the only way this could have been resolved, again, is by communication! He probably didn't know how to respond and so (being a typical guy ;P) turns to the games console! Sometimes it's up to both people in the relationship to take the initiative and communicate issues to one another - otherwise you are both left feeling awkward and hurt - not ideal!! Furthermore, in terms of breaking his things...put yourself in his shoes. Would you be happy if this happened to you? I think this man must be a godsend if he said that he still wanted to be with you after physically attacking him! Have you considered anger management perhaps? I think you need to find ways of getting your anger out in a healthier way - smashing things up does not solve anything. And physically assaulting someone, enough so to go to jail, is abuse and I personally would not tolerate it. You need to focus on fixing yourself before attempting to solve this relationship I think. Consider what you want as a person, and perhaps counselling or anger management will help you through any feelings that you do not feel capable of coping with. At the end of the day...if someone "offered me a clean slate" when I'd endured physical abuse from them - I would not come back. So what I would suggest is putting yourself in his shoes and consider how he may feel. Remember, a relationship works BOTH ways. And communication is key. Good luck and best wishes. <M