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Confuddled! What should I do?

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Okay so I'll start with the easy bits, my best friend and me are sorta friends with benefits. We have known each other since we were little. We have stuck together through thick and thin. One night about a year ago we were both drunk and basically fell into bed together. That changed our relationship a lot. Since then we have been together a ton of times only difference is we are completely sober. Recently when I've slept over I've heard him telling me he loves me when he thinks I'm asleep. He has stuck by me through a load of tough stuff recently even when I pushed him away. No matter what he's always fighting in my corner. Now the bit I'm really struggling with, he has a job offer out of the country and to be honest it's perfect for him. Yet he acts indifferent towards it. If I bring it up he tells me to drop it. Anyways last time I tried we both got a little angry I told him to stop being a coward all his life which admittedly was harsh. His response was that he had someone who'd fall apart if he left. This is my issue because he has no family left and all of his friends have people they are much closer too than him. Leaving one person, me. Granted I have been fragile recently however I don't want to be the only reason he stays. I really love him I honestly do and I would love him to stay. I'm scared that if I push him to go he will never come back to me but he needs to follow his dream right? How the hell do I make this right without breaking both our hearts? It feels wrong to be telling the man I love to up sticks and move half way across the world. I'm so confused usually when I have a tricky problem Jake is the one who makes it right. Now I need to try and figure it out on my own because God knows if one of my friends found out the world would know in thirty seconds. Please help do I push him to go or leave it alone ?

Confuddled! What should I do?

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If your looking for personal advice, I think you should just leave it as he obviously loves you a lot too! maybe this job was his dream but he had since realised that you are more important to him than following his dream, you should try to talk to him though... maybe slowly ease into the subject! I hope I've been some help :)

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