How can I compromise?

I'm a virgin and my boyfriend is not my whole life my intentions have been to wait until marriage. But I love him and I know I don't necessarily want to wait that long (circumstances make the possibility nuptials far off) now. However I still do not feel ready yet. Until this last month he has been understanding and supportive but it seems now something has clicked it seems like he resents me and keeps bringing up that we will run out of other sexual things to do. This would be understandable if we lived together or saw each other everyday but he is in the military and we see each other every 3-6 months. Because of this I feel like it is impossible to be bored already. I have already done more with him than I have ever done before and I feel like he is no longer respecting what big expressions of my love these acts have been. He will bring it up and it will break my heart a little which results in a discussion about his priorities and how he is sorry and that it is his own issue that he needs to work through. Tonight we decided to put a ban on sexual discussions to ensure that the conversations that upset us both don't happen but I'm not sure how well that will work out. I kind of think we might need to consult a sex therapist because he is one extreme and seems to have recently developed insatiable needs while I am at the other extreme where I fear losing my innocence and find myself being farther away from being ready since these issues have arose. When I brought up the idea he refused to consider it. I need to find some way to help him through this so that I can resume getting closer to being ready and also to compromise otherwise I will have two choices cry everytime he brings up sex or end the relationship to protect my own heart. Any advice?

For any relationship to be successful it has to be a two way street. You both need to be on the same page and have the same values and standards. You're a virgin and your intentions are/were to wait until marriage. You love your boyfriend and now you're having second thoughts about keeping your virginity. Is that because nuptials are too far in the future or is because you realise it's a natural thing for lovers to be intimate to express their love and devotion for each other? If your boyfriend is not your whole life as you say, then how can expect him to see you in any other way? He has failed to see the big expressions of your love, as you call them, because of this. He only sees you every 3-6 months and it's natural that 2 partners after an extended absence, be intimate. You're trying to solve the problem by mentioning a sex therapist but you don't know whether you want to keep your virginity. Now he's extreme and he seems insatiable. By putting a ban on all sexual discussions, you are ignoring the issue and I'm sorry but it won't go away. Make up your mind whether to go down the path of losing your virginity now or after marriage. Most importantly, have a look in the mirror and ask yourself what you really need and want. After you do that, then the decision about your relationship will be an easy one to make.

My first sentence should have a period I apologize for the confusion. I am a virgin while my boyfriend is not a virgin. My whole life I have been waiting until marriage. He luckily is not deployed as of right now but lives on base in another state. The ban on anything sexual has been out in place as to avoid the conversion leading to a path which hurts my feelings and results in him getting mad not to avoid the issue. He feels like the issue is something he can work through alone, I\\\'m not convinced that is the case. We are in our twenties. I am older than he is. I consider any intercourse as taking ones virginity. Thanks.