Needy?

I have been with my boyfriend for 2yrs and he is a good man. He has never given me cause but i check his mobile and his email, he doesnt know i do this. I get upset if i find one from a femail friend or ones from mail friends joking about him in compromising situations. I know this is just men talk, but it makes me ill with worry. I feel i am ruining this lovely relationship. He is not romantic and i dont get flowers. I am such a romantic and often give him little notes. He use to leave the odd one for me but that was a while ago. He is not forth coming with his thoughts or what he has done with his day. I have to ask all the time, he doesnt make chit chat. I want him to be interested in me and what i have done instead of me volenteering it up. I want passionate kisses, he only pecks. I want love letters and to be told how pleased he is to be with me. I told him all this and he said if i was unhappy did i want us to split. I said no i wanted us to sort this. I asked if he wanted to finish and he said no he was quite happy. I said i bet you are, i am a great girlfriend. He said i was hard work and i think i am because i am demanding. I am worried that i am becoming needy. I want to feel content and happy but i feel so low and weepy. I cant seem to move on from feeling that he doesnt want to make the effort anymore. I love his so much and feel sick at the thought of us not being together.

hi catherine,they say opposites attract and one is always more romantic or thoughtful than the other but if you dont get it back sometimes you can feel rejected,as for going through his phone and emails ive done that but i have just cause to, it sounds like he loves you very much and is happy with you he could be the type that goes out every weekend with his mates but he doesnt hes with you,tell him on one night he has to make all the moves towards you ,is he shy perhaps hes been brought up in a family that wasnt touchy feely some aint like that and hide their feelings ,he sounds like a good guy hang on to him.

Hi catherine, i can relate to ur problem.. i been with my bf for 3yrs, and same thing is happening to me, and worse is i cant leave him i am deeply in love with him, can u imagin he dosnt even have time to meet me.. if i am lucky i get to see him once a month, his always busy with work and friend, and he dosnt show any romance or anything.. i always try my best with him.. i give him surprise gifts and try to be romantic.. but nothing come from his side, i cant leave him cos his my first love and my first proper realtionship. i hope u find a way that make u both happy

Thank you Ponty1964 i think you are right and that he does love me. Also his family are lovely but not demonstrative, i never thought of that conection. I am making a huge effort to not look at his mob or emails. I know he doesnt cheat so i think that by not looking i dont get myself worked up over nothing. I actually feel better for not looking. I dont feel so clingy and surprisingly that is very empowering. Lubna, you sound such a lovely person no wonder your man is with you but what is it that you get from him that keeps you loving him? Like me, i feel you too need to find a way to become more incontrol of your emotions. We are so dammed hormonal that they take over. Goodluck x