Help if you can

So my girlfriend had always had low self esteem and I've been doing my best to help her. Recently she have been bothered by her wanting for sexual contact. We're both virgins but we've done other things. She comes to me for all her problem and I'm very happy she does. I've helped her with some real serious shit (like molestation by step-dad serious) but today there was something really bothering her. She asked if she was easy and was really depress about wanting sexual contact. I told her she needed to figure out what was causing her to feel this way. She said she knew what it was but when I ask what she wouldn't tell me no matter what. Now with everything we've been through the only thing I can think of is that these negative feelings where caused by me or she's cheating/cheated on me. Any advice? At least enough that I can get some peace of mind until tomorrow where I can actually talk to her about it?

Hey White crow, You helped me with personal experience, so let me reciprocate. I don't know how old you two are, and I can't really say I fully understand being in a relationship with both being virgins, but I do understand Self esteem and Self worth issues. It is quite possible she is, But I don't think that's what it is. I think The lasting psychological damage from the molestation that she had recieved is still messing with her. I think in her subconscious she partially still blames herself for it, and the fact that she wants to have sex is quite normal. I know it may be nerve racking being your first time and all, but dude, make plans with her, make her feel special, important, take her out, do something romantic. Ask her directly, no hinting, no innuendo, no subtle hints, be direct and ask her, "Hey, I love you, and If your ready, I do want to go to the next step. You are not easy, I love you more then anything, You're the reason I get out of bed in the morning. I got lucky enough to get someone as wonderful and amazing as you." I've been where you are now. Doubting, at the point where you don't know what to think. At the end of your length of rope. If you really love her, don't doubt her. And, if you need someone to talk to, let me know.

Thanks that actually did calm me down a bit. Truth be told we already did that^^, we're still virgins because it hurt her to much and we decided to stop. I don't think it's the molestation because she would have told me of it was. However I will steal your advice about being straight forward when I meet up with her today. Thanks for the help, your a great person^^