Why is my ex playing this game?

Me and my ex broke up a year ago (really her decision). Til this day, I still very much love her. I tried keeping us together but we all know thats not going to work. So after a while I just accepted the fact that it was over. But when I try to move on she tries to find anyway to keep me around. Besides our daughter she shouldnt have anything to talk to me about but she stays trying to keep this bs friend thing going on between us. Its a long story so Im not going to type all of it up but I'll say that she turned on me in a very foul way. I told her to let this s**t go but it goes in 1 ear and out the other. When I dont answer her calls/text she blows up my phone. And once she even popped up on my job! O yea, she left me and shortly got with somebody else, (he lies on the regular, cheats on her but she can't catch him)But he "pampers" her so she stays with him in my opinion. I asked her "why are you going through all of this if u dont want a relationship with me?" She replies with something like this everytime. "I got a few things I have to take care of 1st" WTF does that mean? Then she turns and says im not trying to hold your life up!! Basically trying to confuse me. She always wants to know what im doing or who im with(females) We were together for 7 yrs since seniors in high school. Whats u guys opinion? Its very much appreciated!

Yes, she's trying to control you but I think she's also trying to keep in you in 'place' while she "takes care of a few things first". You state she can't catch her current BF while he's cheating etc which means she knows about it but once she catches him she might just want to come back to you. The way she turned on you in "very foul way" says she has driven you away...she drove you away. If it was her decision to end it and her actions since are 'all over the shop' regarding the relationship, then it could mean she's looking for a way to return. When she states she not trying to hold your life up, the very fact that she's in your face persistently says the opposite. Actions speak. You're right, the only thing you should have in common with her is your daughter. You've accepted that it's over but has she?