Love lost

About 3 years ago I realized my attraction to men. On December 29, 2012 I announced me being gay and was in a relationship with my friend with who've I've known for a year prior. At first we both were nervous and we really had alot of fear. Then we started getting comfortable and experimenting and in 6 months we took each other's virginity. For a while all was good, and I decided I was gay and although he had a hard time he did to. Then I noticed he got so distant. He pushed me away so much and I tried just to be there. I went away for 6 months to Brazil and he told me on my return he no longer wanted to be gay.. We still continued to have sex. Kiss. All if the things before. I just want to know am I the reason? Am I doing something wrong? Is their anyway I can get us back? And if no is their any advice on how to move on.

Hello! If the two of you is still having sex and everything, he may just want to be friends with benefits. Which is not very beneficial for you since you actually put feelings when you are having intimacy with him. I honestly do not think it is your problem in any way. Yes, there could be ways to get you guys back together but that is only if he still has feelings for you, so only he can tell. If you find out that there is no way to get back together with him, stop having sex and all of the things before. Give yourself space and time to get over him. Then start going to gay bars, if you know what i mean ;P Meet someone else, try something new. Good luck!

Your lover appears to have moved on emotionally but is still using you for sex. The only option you have to avoid feeling used is to break up with him completely. This will be difficult and painful to do, but it is the only way to preserve your self respect. The longer you allow him to take advantage of you, the worse and the more resentful you will feel. You deserve someone who loves you back. Count this one as your first love. Most of the time, first love doesn't work out, but it is a beneficial, learning experience. When you meet your true love, you will know what to do. Best of luck, Dr Shamp