Inacceptance in Indian family due to dark colored skin

hi, I am an Indian girl, and I have a dark complexion skin. My husband is very fair and completely contrast to my color. We fell in love about 6 years ago, and were very happy with our relationship. We both work in a reputed IT firm, (different organizations) and financially very stable. We used to have sex before our marriage, and after marriage also I feel satisfied sexually. We have great sex together and everythings good between us. My only problem is, somewhere I feel my in laws don't accept me as their daughter in law because I am dark in color. Somewhere they feel insulted to introduce me to any of their family members. I have also heard something like, "even if your husband is having an external affair, its still valid as he may not be satisfied with you" ( over heard lot of people saying this) Since I am very frank with my husband, I spoke to him about this, I also asked if hes not satisfied with me, in response he was very supportive and caring, and showed his love towards me. And said that all his life he has loved me and is very happy. But he too got disappointed by their family's attitude towards me. Its 4 months into our marriage, but I never feel I have been accepted in my in laws family. My husband discussed this problem with his mother once in a different manner very cautiously, but things got heated up, and went into unnecessary arguement and discussion. Its also not right to go away and stay in another house since leaving in laws house in India is not taken in good spirit. I am happy with my husband, but I really don't know where my family is going. Sometimes it makes me very depressed, and I also start to think like, "Its possible, my husband may be having a wish to have a fair wife, and make love to a fair girl than me". Lot of negativity is crumbling in my mind, and it's something i am not able to discuss with anyone. I know its discrimination on the basis of color, but it's more deeply rooted into people's mind. Something's I can't change. Really need some help or suggestion.

Dear Shruti, You are married to your husband, not to his family. Families may or may not accept the new son or daughter in law for whatever reason. You and your hubby are financially independent; you don't need to care about what they think. Here are your options: Option A. The Tough Love Approach. Stop yourself and your husband from attending all family functions from his side until the inalws come crawling to you to apologize. If they don't come quickly, announce that they will be banned from your future children, then carry through your threat. Option B. The Passive-Aggressive Approach. Continue to attend inlaw meetings but ignore any irritating signals you may receive from the inlaws. Smile helplessly and pathetically to draw sympathy. The comments will eventually stop when they are bored with your lack of response and feel ashamed of themselves for picking on a weak little thing. Option C. The Too-Much-Information Approach. Continue to attend inlaw meetings, and when they start attacking your sex life, defend it by describing graphically and shamelessly the glorious detail of your husband's sexual behavior with you. You will never hear anyone mention your sex life after that. Pick the option that best fits your personality and style. Congratulations on your wonderful marriage! Dr Shamp

Dear Shruti - The desire of Martin Luther King has not yet been fulfilled: that people 'should be judged by the content of their character NOT the color of their skin' (a wise American black leader). And even he used the pronoun 'man' not 'people'. So I am left with only Buddha and Jesus - granted the wisest of all philosophers! That all (men and women, all colors, all nationalities) are created equal under the eyes of the 'Great Spirit that moves through ALL things'. Yes, you are discriminated against. Do not let this spoil the great gift of Love given to you by your Creator. I urge you to strive to 'forgive those who trespass against you'. The best way to change discrimination is to go forth in Love. Do NOT let these evil doers rob you of your happiness and thankfulness to the Great Spirit. Accept the Great Spirit's grace and reflect it in a world governed by the Evil One. Always be as open and honest with your husband as you are now and 'the world' cannot rob you and he of your greatest gift...Love. I know this rejection is a hard burden to bear and I have great respect for you and how well you have done so far. Don't let them stop you from enjoying what sounds to me like a wonderful life ahead of you but pity them that they will never know your j joy! May the Great Spirit bless and keep you and your husband, grant you strength and happiness with in your marriage. Love, Whatsup

DRSHAMP - Do U realize that they are in India? Just asking?

Thanks a lot Dr Shamp. I think option B looks good. Thanks for all your inputs. Have a great day.