I am dating an older man

First of all, I don't want any harsh comments calling me a "slut" or "gold digger." You should know that I care deeply about this man I am seeing, but he does have a girlfriend whom he lives with and they been dating for a while. Yes, he is the assistant manager at my work. No, I am not seeing him just to get ahead or for his money. He doesn't even make much money. I could careless about that. Anyways, he is 30-years-older than me. I know, he is much older than I, but I can't help how I feel. I started having feelings for him over the summer. I knew him for almost 2 years, and all of a sudden I became attracted to him. I don't know why, I just like being around him. He makes me happy and we have a connection with each other. I thought he might like me too because he was always staring at me in a way every women want to be started at. After a few months of having a crush on him, things to heat up between each other. Just a week ago, he gave me a hug while at work. I was in the back room looking for something by myself and comes walking in because he was closing the store that night. He asked me for a hug(we hugged a little bit before this, but it was a small quick hug). So, I smiled and gave him a hug. It wasn't a platonic hug, this hug meant something. I wrapped my arms around his waist and laid my head on his chest, while he rubbed by back gently with his hands and talked about how much he enjoyed this. This hug lasted for a minute. It felt nice, but nothing happened. We closed that night and I went home. A couple days later, I went to work. He wasn't closing that night, but he said he would come by early and see me. And he did. We were both in the back room together alone with no cameras. And then we hugged just like the way we hugged a couple days before. Then, he kissed me. I was shocked because I always wanted to kiss him and I never thought I would get the chance. It was just a quick gentle kiss on the lips, then we smiled and rubbed noises. He left for the night and the next day at work, he closed. We went into the back and started kissing and hugging. He kept telling me how beautiful I was and how pretty my eyes are. To be honest, I love the attention he is giving me. But I feel bad because he does have a live-in girlfriend. I don't want wreck anything or be the other woman, but I like him a lot and he does make me very happy. I don't any harsh comments, I just want advice. I don't think I can stop seeing him. I like him that much. I know we don't have a future together, but right now I am very happy.

Lalamore, I'm sorry but this man, given his mature years, should know better. He has put you in a situation where there will be heartache and misery for you. Morally, the reason is because he's still with his GF and still lives with her. Psychologically, the reason is that we need to finish with one relationship properly before we get into another. We should go into a new relationship without baggage. Sure, he may be unhappy in his current relationship but that doesn't give him the right to start a new one without resolving where he is now. Sure, you may love his attention but is it genuine? Ask yourself why you state you don't want to be the other woman and ask yourself why you don't want to wreck anything because in a sense, you are already the other woman, and you are, unwittingly, assisting him to wreck his relationship. Affairs are affairs but in 99% of them, it's the third person (you) who gets hurt the most. You may be happy now, and age and circumstances don't come into in but ask yourself that if you CAN"T see a future together, regardless of your feeling for him, then what is the point of proceeding down the path to unhappiness and misery?