Need help with wife

My wife and I have been together for going on 10 years now and until recently everything seemed fine. When we first got together she was very shy and reserved when it came to sex. Later I found out her first and only sexual experience prior to me had been a rape. As it was the only way she eventually opened up enough to have sex with me even was through role playing (we're both old school D&D geeks). Lately however she has been wanting to try "dating" other people so she can make up for her lack of experience. I've been trying for a long time to get her to open up to me about things she'd like to try or experience but she seems unable to discuss it with me. Is there a way to get her to explore with me instead or should I just accept that she needs to explore outside of our relationship?

who do you need affirmation from.? What gets me is why? now you state its cause of her past. Wouldn't that alone lock her down to just being happy with you? Trust is an important base of any relationship but so is respect.Quite honesty in the end you would have to live with the constant stress and worry that maybe she might strike up feelings and that friendly relationship develops a affair without you intending then you will become powerless Your life can blow up in your face.I really don't want to be too confrontations as this to the end of your 10years of your life gone which you don't want. If your not 100'/. comforatble with the situation then you need to step back and rethink this.Its not about sex as it is with the levels of trust between you. if you both agree to it then thats your call but if you feel that your needs has become secondary then thats something you need to address...You asked about her just exploreing with you..? why wouldn't she she put her trust in you and that alone took time if thats the case then how would she be open to a stranger? But if you make the move to who wants or needs what then you will be vulnerable to being cheated on and lied to because it is not the dating or sex but the relationship trust that is broking she may develop bonds beyond the sexuual attaction i wish you and your wife the best

I don't think it's right that she wants to have sex with other people. You and only YOU are her husband. You should not share her with anyone I dont care if its with a man or women or both no. Why cant she just get toys to explore her body? A vibrator and masturbation would let her explore what feels good and doesnt feel good she doesnt need to go out and basically cheat on her husband. You could use the vibrator on her, you could explore together. I hate to say this but if I was you I would be expecting her to be cheating real soon....talk to her about all of this and tell her she doesnt need to sleep with someone else or date. Tell her it doesnt matter if she isnt expierenced or is that you love her no matter what and that she is great in bed. I think she is missing something that she is searching for and I think the rape messed up her way of thinking. She should see a therapist and meanwhile tell her if she dates someone else that you are leaving. put your foot down.