Goddaughter / mother emotions

On March 30, 2011 my goddaughter was born. I've been raising her since she was 3 weeks old and shes almost 3 years old. At first, her mother didn't want to keep her, she wanted an abortion however, i talked her out of it. So before my goddaughter was 1 years old, her mother had wanted me to take custody of her. But I couldn't I it because I was on my way to college (out of state). So during my first semester in college, my goddaughter mother contacted me and told me is there any way possible that I can get custody of the baby. so i left college and moved back home to try to get custody of the baby. so in the process of the papers being done, my goddaughter and her mother was both staying with me at my mother house. and while she was there, she stole money from my brother, broke curfew, invited guys over to the house without asking, and not once helped with the baby. so my mother sent her back to her hometown but the papers didn't fully get finished. so while the baby was staying with me for almost 7 months not once did the mother call to see how the baby was doing nor come back in town to see her. however, she spent her money on going to other states. she even missed her daughters 2nd birthday party. so while i was having family problems and i wasn't financially stable, i gave my goddaughter back to her mother. but i was still getting her on the weekend and every holiday. however recently, i was not in the right state of mind of keep taking care of her so i gave her back for good so i can get myself together. but its so hard to just try to let something go like that. i was there for her first crawl, first step, first birthday, basically her first everything. i was her mother from birth till she was 2.5 years old, when her birth mother wasn't. and it hurts me that now her mother wont even let me see nor speak to her. i just want to know how can i get over this heartache.

It's patently obvious your goddaughter's mother doesn't want her child and never did. Her actions have spoken time and time again, even when she was present at your household. You stepped in and did the right thing, right from just after her birth, but in doing so, you have become this child's mother. You paint her mother as a not so good person, while your standards and values are selfless and genuine, but regardless, legally, the child's mother is still her mother...those legal papers weren't completed for whatever reasons.... You need professional assistance and counseling because while you done more than the right thing by this child, her mother has every right to do what she pleases with her daughter, regardless of your very good intentions. What does your family/mother think of all this? Is there any assistance there?