Does he really want me?

5 years ago i got with a guy i new from school. we had lost contact due to him moving away to his dads and we got bk in contact when i was about 21 we found eachother on a social networking site. i was in a relationship at the time which wasnt great he had a drink problem. Over time we built up a brilliant relationship it was like we were never apart he was there for me when i was going through a rough time with my relationship at the time. time went by and we started getting feelings for eachother. 2 months after my relationship had ended we got together everything happened quick we was living with eachother within a month and i found out i was pregnant from my relationship before. i did go through with terminatin and things started to get rocky. we seperated 3 months later and went our seperate ways we met other people had kids but i did get the odd email from him asking how me and kids were on mothers day i wld get a happy mothers day email birthday messages etc. i was in a abusive relationship and he heard about it through a close friend of mine and he started emailing me more sayin if i want to talk he will be there and so on. i was put in a womans refuge with my two children and he helped me get out and found a place for me. He had always told me he loved me and the feelings were mutual. He was my school sweetheart aswell. He has now asked if we can try again, i was a bit hesitate at first due to my other relationships but he was like my best friend my lover,we was always thinking bout eachother no matter where we were or with. He saying he wants to get married have kids with me one day he knows what he wants and i have told him what i want from a relationship and he agreed with me. i try and arrange days with him but he always to busy he have now agreed wednesday and weekends i see him unless he working as he a coach driver. He said he got two weeks coming up free no uni as he training to be a social worker and he will have more time for me and if i need anything just ask now he is im to busy were only dating stop rushing im looking into things to much. lets just take it slow no rush enjoy the company without all the added pressure.

Hey Chloe. Well don't blow your chance of happiness OK? Yes he does really want you BUT because there is so much baggage over the years he's just being cautious that's all. I think you're reading into this too deeply. He's trying to hold a job down AND do a degree? Come on! That's a lot for one person and then if he has kids from a previous relationship that he sees... Now do you catch my drift? All will be well you need to be patient but get on with your own life so that you are as independent as possible without relying on men. OK? Be a happy you first and then you'll have a lot more to give in this blossoming relationship. Good luck.

He does care for you, no doubt. But like mentioned in the above post, he needs time to sort himself out and you also need time to sort yourself out. Be independent and try to bring back happiness in your Life. Men get attracted to happy, independent women. They leave you if you get too clingy.

hi iwas single for 2years before getting with him as i mentally and physical cldnt go near a guyi trusted no one in that time i went for therapy and sorted myself as as alot went on. when he was on the scene and we started getting closer we was going out for meals taking kids out going arcades going out on our own was nice helping me out with bits round my flat. as soon as we got together (dating) it all changed its like he hasnt got time for us and all he says it were just dating im busy seeing my mates thats why im confused now he got where he wants me now he keeping his distance saying take it slow like i mentioned previously. A friend of his is also back on the scene who has just split with his partner, i use to work with him before they came friends through mutual friends they new. we never got on i found him to touchy feeling and he a guy who likes to put it about a bit. Its been since he has been back, he has gone like this.