Love truly gone?

Carlos and I have been dating for 2 years, and were engaged, but a messy breakup in September ended that. We got back together a few weeks later, and for the most part I felt our relationship was better than ever. But last night, out of the blue, he told me he didn't love me anymore, not like he used to. I wanted to work things out and figure out why he feels this way and what we could do to fix it, and at first he was willing to stay open minded and do what we can to figure out why this is going on, but today he decided that instead he wants nothing to do with me. I know the love is still there somewhere, but how can I convince him to give me a chance to help find it?

Angelica, Carlos has been upfront and honest with you. He may love you in another way and or he may be being wise about the whole thing and has realized that your relationship, as you pair knew it, is over from his perspective. But you need to wait for him if you feel there is something left in your relationship. If this is true, he'll come to you when he has the need...he'll follow his heart. In the meantime, keep your distance from him and give him the space to work it out.

Love does not need convincing and finding. If he needs to be convinced to stay together, it will again break in some months. You have to let him go now. Give him time apart to find himself. If he has to come to you, it has to be his decision. Keep yourself engaged in the mean time. Don't portray yourself as clingy, unhappy, non confident etc. Instead try to be confident, happy and outgoing. Try to be the person you were before you met him and the person he got attracted to in the first place.