Do I need to break up

i am in a relationship with a girl sice 2010. initially i was floored by her. but after some time it feels the spark has gone. i dont njoy talkin to her at all, whereas she desperately waits for my call.i keep finding faults with her , like her underconfidence , introvert nature. she loves me a lot. i kw wat i m doing is wrong but i need to think about myself also. i dont think that i will be proud of her at any point of time after marriage. we are from india , where parents take a big decision for marriage. both our parents have problems with each other. sometimes i feel that i dont love her. i actually dont kw wat love is now. maybe one possibility is that i m just continuing because she loves me a lot( a lot and very loyal to me unlike me). if i break up with her she will be devastated . she is already under depression(been to a counselor also) because shes 26 years age and her parents r forcing her for marriage.i dontt want to get married. i dont kw wat is right or wat is wrong. maybe its the distance between us that has decreased the spark(i stay in a different city, meet once/twice a year). i have a fear that if i let her go will i ever find a gal who will love me that much, will she be faithful like her.i m totally confused. one thing like if shes crying after being scolded by her parents and talkin to me, i dont feel her pain and more interested in keeping phone down than listen or giving her support. i dont tell her this but this is what i feel. please guide..

Firstly,you have to be sure you don't love her again because or else sometimes,it could be when you let her go that you will now know her value. So,be sure first and then when you are sure you do not love her, please let her go for her own good or else she'll be the one suffering in the relationship by not getting the love she gives in return. She won't die,ok? She'll get over it at last even if you break up with her and she'll come out of the pain better and stronger. And she'll have the opportunity to find someone that loves her truly at last. If u don't love her, your marriage to her will be more devastating for her. Let her go before it is too late for her. Do nt waste her time more please. Thank you. Hope this helps bro.

End this, I can hear the pressure , and the unwanted responsibility you feel in this place. You are not happy. This person sees and speaks to you twice yearly right , she can survive if you let go. I think you should also give her credit too, maybe she is stronger then you think. You say she is talking professionally to someone. I think she will be okay. Your fear is that you will not meet a girl in the future that will love you like her, is not rational you do not know what the future will bring.

JUMCIQUTE and MOUNTAIN thanks .. guys i m totally confused. i m acting liuke such a big selfish jerk.. i m not a good person. itz like im just thinking abt myself, what is love??? somebody plz tell me,.. i m totally confused... maybe its which girl will love me unconditionally like her.. i dunno...i m fucked up,... tired dude tired

thanks fr ur advice... actually my fear is WAT NEXT?? whos gonna be in my life now,? will i be able to find a person who loves me? should i leave a person who loves me like hell?? or is it that later when shes fully gone from my life that i will miss her terribly? what is love,, is compatiblity very imp in life??

Ah the fear of the unknown ....what you are describing is very common and very expected when you are approaching a ending a big choice. This is big, and you are asking one of the biggest questions..... I think you will understand love when you feel for someone what that girl feels for you .... The whole way though your life you will meet amazing people and each person will be their to teach you something. Figure it out what did this girl teach you? You speak in a nasty way about yourself, just because this does not feel right for you..... that is okay to not feel okay...... I promise you love wont make you feel this doubt..... I think you should give yourself credit here, you are a caring person , and you seem to understand love, something is telling you this is not right. it is not. Walk away with love in your heart , this is your life, how are are you going to feel if you are hear in 5 years time? Move forward, say goodbye . She will thank you.....

thanks mountain nd susie... we hv stopped talking. she righlty accusing me of not taking a stand for her nd talking about our marriage to our parents.... her friend tell me shes devastated. me on the other hand feel sad but when doing sum work forget abt it... i get this feelin that ,yes i need to break up but BUT BUT BUT ,,, this is making things hard .adding to fact that she totaaly in depression now :( ... i wish we would hv broken up happily or something like that...