Family and boyfriend issues

Hi All, here is my problem in short. My parents want me to get married soon to a guy they will search according to all the norms of an arranged marriage. I am presently in a relationship with a guy with whom I am pursuing my masters degree. He loves me but somehow I dont find the relationship fulfilling. A part of me wants to break up with him but I know he does not want to hear any of it. He is intelligent and talented, but i find him too dependent on me. Anytime I try to tell him this, he breaks down. The other important thing is now I realize that my parents won allow me and him to be together.. earlier, they had said they would respect my choice but now they have backed out completely. They want me to get married to some guy they choose coz of family issues and stuff. I feel like i am being forced. Please help me out.

Azee ....people can only force you if you want to feel you are forced. Your parents can select a guy, arrange the pre marriage formalities but can they actually force you into the marriage? See here is your tricky mind playing games with you. The part of you that feels this relationship is not meant to be is telling you to act forced. What you are telling us is actually what your mind wants to tell him. Your parents will still respect your choice. You have to be firm in your decision as to whom you want to marry. If you choose the person with whom you have a relationship with, just be firm on that. If instead you choose arranged marriage, who knows among the proposals your parents bring you might find the person more suited to you? Only insist with your parents that you would like to get to know the guy before you say yes.

Yes I agree with the above post. The approach needs to be modernized a bit. Gone are the days when you had to blindly marry whoever was selected.