Is she taking the mick

I have been dating a girl for eight months, she has 3 kids from a previous marriage, has been divorced 7 years plus, she is unemployed, receives benefits, she lives up north, I am In london, we meet once a week I sometimes spend the weekend round her rented 2 bed house. In eight months she has rarely come to see me, twice to be precise, I go whenever I can because I understand she isn't working and has 3 kids to support. I also pay for food, drinks, hotels and outings, if her kids are with us I pay for them to. Simply because of her situation. In the time I've been with her she asked me very early on in the relationship if she could borrow £800 for a car she wanted to buy and would return the money soon as she sold her other car, I refused saying I don't have the money as I knew very little about her at the time. Didn't even know where she lives. Since then we have become closer, I think I'm in love with her, she also says she's in love with me, however she is always saying I have to prove I love her, I said I don't have to prove nothing I'm with you cause I want to be not to prove anything, in the eight months we been together she has wanted to run her fathers shop asked if I would run it with her, and also put down £5000 for stock for the shop, which she said she'll pay back, this she wanted to do without telling her family, so I asked her other than the £5000 I'm lending you where do I fit it, this is for you your kids and your family, nothing to do with me, she gave me the silent treatment, she then told me on the phone that she was also thinking of me??? I thought maybe she was, the other day after having a number of arguments which I'll bring up on a seperate forum, she said she wants to buy a van to start courier work and if I'd buy her a van! At this point I thought enough is enough and said, "I can't support you financially as I have my own house to look after and bills to pay, so till we're living together I can't afford that" I also said "I don't mind spending money on you cause your not working, but you need to find a job as you have 3 kids to support, even if we do live together upu still have to pay your way" ever since that day I've been told I'm not there for her, she feels used, if I'm gonna be her partner that should be now not when we start living together, this and that. Although there are other issues I really don't know what to think.

It definitely sounds like SHE is using YOU! But that's just my advice. Honestly , I am a girl and I know how manipulative us women can be. She has some balls to ask you for money so early on in you alls relationship. I def. wouldn't do that . Money just makes everything complicated . And its hard enough to try to figure out how you feel about her much less putting money into the equation.