Partner spending too much time surfing...

My partner seems to spend hours on the computer.. He's created an account, password protected it, hides his phone and even takes it to the bathroom with him. I know hes not having an affair as he's always at work and comes straight home but I can't help thinking he's starting online relationships. I know I was wrong but our relationship has got so bad that we don't even speak - he doesn't allow me to even come near to the computer as he starts shouting saying that I'm spying on him. So, I managed to get into his account on the computer and find pictures in his received files of numerous girls in their underwear -and not page 3 kinda girls but real life girls. And then I saw some photo's of him too - nothing saucy, just his face and a pic of his so called 6-pack. Now he knows I've looked through his phone before and he started such an argument that I ended up feeling I was wrong and apologised. I don't know whether to tell him I found these pics and I am concerned - Was I wrong to check his account or am I justified in feeling suspicious?

hi,you werent wrong at all u had a feeling he was up to something and your suspicions were right he has something to hide and for him to turn the tables and blame you is unacceptable tell him he is out of order to blame you he is obviously looking and chatting to these women if you gut instinct is telling you something is wrong it usually is .if it was me i would confront him with these photos you found and see his reaction and listen to what he has to say then he must listen to you and to what you want to happen in your relationship.

Thanks for the reply. I did actually confront him about it, and he , like I expected him to has turned this round on me saying that he can't trust me as I am always sneaking around checking up on him and he feels like he's in a prison, he managed to turn it around that I ended up feeling guilty about it. I know that what he's doing is wrong and it makes me sick to think that he's starting up some sort of relationships online but on the other hand, online is better than in real life...isn't it?

hi, i know what hes doing is wrong and you are right when you are saying hes only doing it online but one day he will meet these women if he could,you will never trust him and you will continue to check up on him, i know his phone is his business and you shouldnt go through it but if your suspicious you should go thro it and to hell with the consequenses, i discussed this with my husband and a typical mans reply was that you shouldnt go thro his phone cos its his business but thats the answer from a guilty man as i found out myself my when i caught him out he denied it and blamed me and said it was all in my head i thought i was cracking up then he admitted it its what they do.

hi, i sorta know how ur feeling coz i just found out about a secret email of my hubby who also was surfing some of these sites , although when i confronted mine he admitted and apologised but said it meant nothing , it was all fictional !! so i think u are justified in checking his account , a women intuition is rarely wrong ! kitty