I can't stop thinking about my ex

Please help, I am in turmoil. I was with my ex-boyfriend on and off for 7 years. We got together when I was 17 and split up when I was 24. I ended our relationship because I had slept with someone else. I then immediately started a relationship with this other person. I am still with my new boyfriend after 7 months but I can't get my ex out of my head. I just want to get on with my life and my new relationship. I do not want my ex back but he is always popping into my thoughts and lots of things me and my new boyfriend do remind me of him/us. I cannot cope with this, I have suffered from depression and anxiety in the recent past, and I can't cope with this carrying on much longer.

You have to communicate this to your partner. I'm pretty sure he'll be feeling the anxiety from you and will want to know what's up, as there is a possibility with the way you are feeling, you may end up snapping and breaking up when you didn't intend to. Either way, you need to be honest with him, he deserves that much. It seems you haven't given yourself time on your own to get over your past relationship, which will always prove difficult, but if you've met your new partner on a crossover, it's a catch 22, these things do happen. Maybe it'd be good for you to step away from the relationship for a period and gain some perspective on what you really want, if he's still there when you are ready, that's great, but you have to be prepared for him to maybe have moved on also. In regards to your previous partner, you obviously split up for a reason, so you have to move on and stop letting "memories" get in the way of your new relationship, otherwise it will end up eating itself. Be positive about the future, if you stay lodged in the past you will not be able to move on with your new relationship.

You have to communicate this to your partner. I'm pretty sure he'll be feeling the anxiety from you and will want to know what's up, as there is a possibility with the way you are feeling, you may end up snapping and breaking up when you didn't intend to. Either way, you need to be honest with him, he deserves that much. It seems you haven't given yourself time on your own to get over your past relationship, which will always prove difficult, but if you've met your new partner on a crossover, it's a catch 22, these things do happen. Maybe it'd be good for you to step away from the relationship for a period and gain some perspective on what you really want, if he's still there when you are ready, that's great, but you have to be prepared for him to maybe have moved on also. In regards to your previous partner, you obviously split up for a reason, so you have to move on and stop letting "memories" get in the way of your new relationship, otherwise it will end up eating itself. Be positive about the future, if you stay lodged in the past you will not be able to move on with your new relationship.

its important to remember you cheated on your ex for a reason, cheating always has a reason. your new boyfriend obviously had something the ex didnt, focus on your relationship now. Of course he is going to be in your thoughts you were with him for 7 years on and off which is a bit chunk of your life. But the past is in the past, getting back with an ex works out very rarely, so keep that in mind. You are probably thinking of him, because it would be like a limb suddenly disappearing, but you need to grow a new limb, put life into perspective you need to find yourself again, it could be necessary to just sit back and take some to chill out and think about what you really want.x