Heartbreak dilemma

Not sure how to start... met a guy online 3 months ago. After my initial reservations about him, and his pursuit of me, we've been seeing one another maybe once a week (epic 18 hour dates) and keeping touch through phone calls and messages every day pretty much. After we'd met only twice he told me he'd had some bad news and a few days later informed me that a woman he'd been seeing non-exclusively for eight months had asked for a commitment and given him an ultimatum. He told me he felt terrible because she was an awesome woman and he didn't want to lose what they had, but had just met me and really wanted to pursue what we might have as well. I felt upset and confused, but realized I had only just met him (online) and that of course I could assume he was seeing other people, but I also felt quite a bit of empathy for this woman who had been seeing him for eight months...Anyway, I decided to not press the issue. He then informed me he'd taken down his online profile because he'd met me and didn't want to meet anyone else, and a couple weeks later he broke it off with the other woman. I took these actions to be signs he wanted to be with just me, and felt pretty happy about it. We spent part of a wknd together, then he got sick for a week and then said he needed some time to himself. So two weeks went by. The emails got a little sporadic and I think we talked on the phone once. I had not taken down my online account, and after his telling me about this other woman I felt compelled to try and date more (he's only the third person I met online, and I went on a couple dates in the 2 weeks I didn't see him. Then when we met up after two weeks, it was really great, but I just felt anxious and asked him-he told me he'd seen and made out with this other woman, and after pressing him said he was not ready to see anyone exclusively for the foreseeable future or maybe ever. He said after being dumped from a long term relationship he'd come to enjoy being on his own, and that he was enjoying just seeing people and that he had a wandering eye and there were just too many attractive women around. So...I've kind of got my answer-he's been pretty clear about his intentions. My dilemma is simply, what do I do? I literally never meet people I feel so compatible with emotionally, intellectually, and physically so it's not a trifling matter to me, not easy to let go of, but I really want to have a relationship with someone and not a part-time, quasi, noncommittal thing. I fear if I continue with him knowing his intentions, I will get my heart broken or just feel like I have no self respect if I'm just there when he wants to see me. But if I break it off- well, I'm losing someone I love spending time with a lot. I'm sure I subconsciously am hoping he'll come around, but I'm also a realist and have to respect what he's told me is pretty straight up and honest and he's not playing games or anything. I guess I'm just looking for some insight into should I stay or should I go. The reason this is stressing me out is because I've been in and out of a very few short relationships the past few years, get fixed up a lot, but it's been years that I've been this excited about someone, so today just imagining cutting this off broke my heart a little. Do I dump him, give an ultimatum of my own, or just take it for what it is?

Hello Peony, well,your situation is intriguing and,sincerely,not one of those someone would want to be in.He's someone you apparently enjoy spending time with,but maybe he needs some time.I know that you might be kinda slowly becoming addicted to him,although you might still be searching for other opportunities.Have you ever thought that you too are practically acting the same?You are both searching for others,although you feel already attracted to someone,but considering the fact that he's been in a 8 month relationship and just came off it,take it easy......but not too much.He's wandering around,maybe he's unsure of his decisions and the last break up has blown him off a bit,so he's confused,which encourages him to try new things and doubt his decisions he already made.His other dates describe this.In my opinion,you should treat him the same he does with you.Don't get too atached,don't give yourself emotionally completely to him and just enjoy the company.It's not something easy to do,especially if you feel compatible with him,but this way you will get to know him better and also you will find out if what you have can go into a new different level or not.If he makes up his mind about you,he will eventually come after you,so yeah,time can solve this out and it will help you also decide with assuarance for yourself if you might want to continue with it or not.Best of luck and hope this helps a bit for you to decide