Need advice on women approaching a man first

I have known this man for a while and over the last few years whenever I seen him or been around him, he acts like he's interested and sometimes gives someand there have been comments by others in the past that he may be interested in me. He gives me mixed signals all the time; sometimes really clear and other times not too clear at all. I am really interested in him - but I feel like the whole thing is going nowhere now. My problem is I know and read up where a women should never approach a guy first and I certainly do not want to appear desperate or like I am chasing him - but I feel like maybe I could try and break the ice a little or just come right out and ask him if he wants to meet up with me sometime. Just need some advice and opinions on how far can a woman go with this without really being the pursuer or at least without seeming aggressive or like she is chasing after a man. He and I are both older. Thank you

This is kinda tricky because you two have known each other for a while now. Most of the time if a guy is really interested he will pursue you. And because he hasnt I would approach with caution ....he could just be a flirter or scared to ask you out because he is not into commiment. If you dont mind rejection or figuring someone out who is not good at expressing them selves if they like you....then ask him on a cofee date...nothing to serious.