Bf becoming excessively rude
PHEOBE - Jun 11 2014 at 02:45
My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 3 years( 2 in long distance).We are in different colleges, states and get to meet rarely.Since the time we have entered in long distance, he has been asking me to do stuff on video chats, which i was uncomfortable with.I told him, and he agreed, but soon, whenever i said no, he would become upset and quiet and act hurt. Then this started happening a lot, and i asked him to stop this behaviour.He admitted that it was getting out of control for him and he'd take care not to do it again. He didnt, for a time, but then soon he started saying i dont want to be there for you emotionally bcz you arent there physically. Also, he always lied a lot, about a lot of stuff, from marks, to watching porn, etc. With all of this Im having a little trouble trusting him. Now a month ago, i found he's been sending requests to unknown hot girls on facebook. I voiiced that i didnt like it. He agreed, but then started saying im inhibiting his freedom, and this is normal. Now i found he still does send requests to unknown girls and sometimes says hi to them. I asked him not to, because it makes me insecure, and he got really rude, and left me to cry alone. This has been happeneing for aa week, whaat do i do?
Your BF is very disrespectful to you. Your long distance relationship of 2 years has become a bore to him. LDRs do last, but they are very difficult to maintain and 2 years is pretty extreme especially when you rarely meet up.
If you're inhibiting his freedom (his words) and you can no longer trust him, then your relationship is basically over. It's certainly not normal to send requests to 'hot girls' when you're supposedly in a relationship regardless of it's status.
Take two steps back and ask yourself if your BF is really 'with you' and then ask yourself what you would expect from a man who respects you AND your unselfish contribution to a difficult long distance relationship.
I'm sorry, but going by your BF's 'in your face' hurtful actions and words, your relationship no longer exists.
Find a man, preferably local, who has respect for himself(and therefore you)and who will put you on a pedestal rather than take you down.