Am I too needy or is he too free spirited?

He's 60 I'm 54. After a year of intense and exciting very attentive and romantic time together ( and moving in together after 4 months) - the texts have become informational and almost non existent except for occasional "love you's" He rarely looks me in the eyes, yet does many "loving" actions like doing my laundry and always taking me to work...yet he doesn't make time for us - nothing intentional- then goes off onto little adventures by himself and texts me about them. Like- hey I'm having a great breakfast at this ace and wish you were here... Or, he's at a conference, skips out on half of it and posts pictures of his adventures for me to see. I know he's NOT seeking someone else but it hurts me to not be included or considered when in contrast to the times we ARE together and I feel ignored. We go for a bike ride and he rides WAAAY ahead of me and doesn't even notice I'm not anywhere nearby- yet comments on what a nice sunset it was. We drive to work and he says NOTHING even though he occasionally touches me along the way- and I am trying desperately to find a topic to share- he turns up the radio news program- Bringing up my concern with this crap only makes him belittle my feelings and then I shut down and hurt and wonder- what has happened?

With reference to the above reply, I dont think age has anything to do with having less intense times. You only need to look as far as this forum which shows couples in their teens 20s 30s 40s 50s are experiencing "less intense times" therefore age is irrelevant. Anyway, back to your issue Gingercat54, when you say "bringing up this crap only makes him belittle your feelings" what do you mean? So you have addressed your concerns with him? Also, he may have been on his own for a bit of time before he met you so maybe he likes to have his quiet/alone time? You both didnt really give much time to get to know each other before moving in together so maybe this is the 'real' him? Either way, from what you have said so far, he sounds like a keeper but maybe just needs to be given a bit of guidance ;)

He belittling your feelings is wrong. I think people do not realize that your feeling are YOUR FEELINGS, YOU REALLY DO FEEL THIS WAY. They take it as just little stuff. Sit him down and tell him this is important to you. You want a companion. Some one to share sunsets with and bike rides together and lunches and everything else. Maybe other people are ok with getting a female friend to do this stuff with but you are not and he should understand that. If he refuses to take your feeling serious this could really get ugly. You could become resentful of his neglect and even begin to question "why are we even together?" and wonder if you are missing out of finding a person to share your sunsets with.