Trusting women issues

Well for some time now I haven't been able to trust women at all It is not that I'm not confident nor anything of the sort I may not be the best looking but not the ugliest ether it's just lately I feel like every girl is the same my friends wife who supposably loved him more than anything in this world was caught by my friend and I going down on some guy who was her child hood friend and he needed a place to stay for a while so he let him stay there And then we saw this in his own house I saw how crushed his been and I don't ever want to feel like that I have also seen that most girls are easy to manipulate by guys who couldn't care less about them or how once things don't go good with their husband they go and cheat I know most people say it's the guys but what I have seen it is the girl and in their head they see nothing wrong with it I want to get rid of this feeling but I can't it's starting to affect me every time a girl tries to get close I push her away and you know the saying the guy always gets married with someone like their mother well I hope that's all bull shit because my mom checks out guys and flirts with them even if she is still with my dad all this has been way to much I feel like women need to be kept amused or they will leave you or cheat please help I hate feeling this way.

I'm not surprised you feel this way. With your mothers example and then your friends wife It seems that this is a common thing, but it isn't. I'm sorry that those are the examples you have been witness to. As to your pushing women away you need to remember, you will only win big if you take a great risk. All relationships are risky. If you find a woman with morals similar to yours and a disposition similar to yours you need to take that leap of faith and put your heart out there. If you keep your heart in a little box yes it will not get broken but neither will it find love. You have to take the risk.

Coldsnowbunny your right it is a risk but that's what worries me the most through out my life I have seen just how evil women could be and it disappoints me because I wish to find true love I'm a archeologist and am fortunate to be able to study in different parts in the world but I would one day wish to start a family have kids but with my job I would most likely will be traveling around and I don't want to feel like she will cheat most women in my life are week minded and with what I have seen easily manipulated i don't want a partner that is that way.

Susiedq yea it' hunts me it's gotten up to the point that I have little to no respect for women but I hate feeling that way I wasn't always like this I feel like if you can't entertain a female they will cheat on you. Now in days most women don't have respect for them selfs and in a way it's disappointing women in my eyes are beautiful but what is inside most women is what makes me not want anything to do with one I have seen people cheat since I was little and I guess in a way it dramatized me I recently got out of a relationship in which she lied about her virginity in all honesty I don't believe losing your virginity without been married is wrong I wish they would be when they get married but the probability is low but lying about it is what discussed me a lot of people told me who she really was in highschool I just met her a couple months ago so I believed her without a doubt but then her reality came to me and I was worse than I could imagine 11 guys that her best friend knew about had done it with her when I asked her all she did was cry and said sorry since then I feel like every girl is un trustworthy

Just be careful not to become jaded. You sound like a sweet person, keep that sweetness and just know that be it women or be it men, we are all people, some are good, some are bad, some are strong and some are weak. Do not make the mistake of grouping an entire sex to one category. And make sure that you are honest to them about your need for honesty. Let them know that cheating would be an absolute deal breaker and that lies are as well.

Coldsnowbunny thank you for your words I understand I need to stop placing women in one category but in all honesty it's truly hard i work hard to get somewhere in life and i hope that one day I get lucky and form a family but I don't want my wife cheating or anything it's hard to trust especially because of what I have seen I saw how crushed my friend was when we caught his ex wife I don't want to feel like that.