I don't wnat to take them so I am a hag

He wants to take ectasy but I have a 21 year old at home ane a five year old. I have no problem having sex.I wouldn't mind trying ectasy if we were by our selves, that's not going to happen. He also likes porn when i transfrered new infromation into his new phone there were forty two video's. and he had only had the phone two weeks. I feel betrayed. I have too much baggage with and abusive past. I feel like I'd rather be beaten to a pulp again rather than this crap. Why is porn so important. I just don't understand and it hurt so much, it's as bad as cheating. I feel fury about it. I and don't want to feel this