S/O's crazy kin

I have been with my s.o. for 5 years now. They say women come with baggage but this man has loads of baggage. He comes with an ex wife and a crazy ex-girlfriend that almost cost his life. Both of his exes are ALWAYS up to something!!! These two women showed up at his brother's house together when his mom was taking her last breath. No it wasn't to pay their respect. These women lack respect. Then when his dad was dying, they once again showed up together at his funeral. He has 3 adult children. His daughters have not liked me from the beginning and his son was in love with me for a few years. It was kind of creepy. The girls wanted him back with either their mom or his ex girlfriend just as long as it was not me. His son didn't want him with anyone because he is the golden child and his dad pays his way for everything. Then there is my s.o.'s siblings. 5/8 of them are alcoholics and drug addicts. All of them including my other half have had problems with alcohol or drugs including my other half's son. His whole family including the exes are constantanly playing games. The women are constantly getting his family to cause problems between us and they do it for them. Because it is his family doing it this man does absolutely nothing about it. I love him but 5 years of constant drama gets old. Just does not seem like the women will ever move on. The funny thing is both these women think he is in love with both of them. They didn't get along until he got with me. If anyone can give me some advice I would so greatly apreciate it.

He allows it to happen, he allows his ex wife and girlfriend to interfere and cause drama in his life and consequently affects you. If he valued his relationship with you, he would remove these people from his life. Your post is all about your frustration dealing with his baggage and his inability and reluctance to do something about it. Give him an ultimatum because you can't possibly live your life with him AND his baggage.

He needs to tell them that if they do not accept you then they do not accept him and he can no longer associate with them. They need not "like" you but they do need to respect you and your relationship with him. If he is unwilling to really be your "other half" then you should let him know you are on your way out of the relationship. You are his family now and if he is choosing certain family members over others then you need to get out and find a man who will prioritize you and your place as his family and partner.