Her flirty friends

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a few months now and we've gotten pretty close. Close enough to where the topic of moving in together is still something in the distant future, but still most likely going to happen. Things are going really well and I'm happy where we are, but she has a lot of male friends that reeeally like to push my buttons. I've seen other topics where guys have similar concerns, but it usually boils down to them being afraid of the girl cheating on them. This isn't my issue. I trust her. I don't believe for a second she will cheat on me. She has a lot of guy friends that fit into the nerdy category or geek or...whatever you want to call it. But she's not really into that kind of man, but these guys don't get that message and they flirt with her constantly while I have to hear about it (and sometimes see it happen before my eyes). I'm okay with it, to an extent. It's just that they keep getting more and more daring to the point where, even when I'm standing right there, they try and sneak something by me and give me a look that begs, 'what are you going to do about it?' They go on and on about 'friend zone' and how she never gave them a chance before I came along and all of that business and, to be honest, I'm tired of it. I have female friends and, even when I was single, I still respected the fact that several of them had boyfriends or husbands. Maybe I'm thinking too old fashioned, but to me, you just don't cross that line. But these guys don't see it that way. So, when I see that glint in their eyes, I just want to knock their lights out! I've tried talking about some of my issues with my girlfriend, but how do you tell her that that tiny man in the glasses with really bad breath that types up her homework for her as a 'friendly act of kindness' makes me so mad I have to leave the room? She's trying her best to stop the flirting, but she doesn't know what to do aside from completely stop hanging out with them, but I really don't want her to lose her friends just because of me. Aside from their bold movements over the past few weeks, they're not bad guys. They just wont stop. Honestly, I want to have a man-to-man with these guys and talk it out before things get out of hand, but I'm afraid it'll just backfire on me and some how I end up painted as a 'typical jealous boyfriend'. They already hate me for being the stranger that took what they assumed was their 'rightful place in line.' (A term which disgusts me). Despite what I look like, I'm not a violent person This will never actually come to blows, but I don't know where to go with this. These men are from a completely different world than me and somehow I don't think they're going to take me seriously when I say, "Guys, I don't care if you're her friends. I don't care if you play video games together, and talk shop and all that stuff that you have in common with her. Just do me a favor and stop trying to romance her." They think that just because she likes the same stuff as them, that they're a perfect match or soul-mates. And because I'm not an electric engineer like her, that we're too different to be compatible. What should I do? Let her handle it and stand on the sidelines while these guys constantly challenge me out in the open until she gives up on her friends? Or call them over, buy them a beer, and hope to God that a good, serious discussion doesn't make an enemy out of my girlfriend's good friends? Or a better question: How do you approach a guy, who is in THEIR situation, and talk to him about backing off without making an enemy out of them?

its her responsibility to make you feel secure, not yours... unless she is consistently making an effort and you cant get over it then its not your issue to deal with. If she is making the effort and its not enough, then you have issues of your own to deal with... at the end of the day, she should be telling these men to stop flirting with her and if shes not doing that or doesnt see the issue or your perception on it, then maybe youre not right for eachother... I know people who will talk about how sexy people are with eachother, will point out hot people and be massive flirts and its acceptable... but i also know people who think its comepletely unacceptable... when it comes to it, relationships and compromise and understanding, and if theres no happy middle and its just her way then you need to back off because youll never be happy... its easy to give advice and hard to take it... imagine your friend was in that situation what would you tell them?... try your best to apply that to yourself

When they are doing those thinks speak up "excuse me. I don't find that funny. Please don't do that again. I understand its all in fun but I don't think that behavior is appropriate or amusing so please don't do it again." If it continues "I have asked you nicely to stop that offensive behavior and respect my wishes, are you refusing to do that?" If they refuse then they were not true friends to begin with and your girlfriend needs to get rid of them. This has nothing to do with jealousy and everything to do with having respect for others that you may be offending.