I'm married and am thinking of leaving him

Well I've been with my husband for 10 years, only got married a few months ago, I didn't want to get married because I knew my relationship wasn't stable enough but I did :( I know silly me..we have 2 kids together which is the main reason I haven't left him. For years I haven't been treated right he use to call me nasty names especially about my weight and about my teeth because there not perfect either it use to hurt me not only that he has been caught out checking out other girls profiles on Facebook and one night whilst at a party a girl said he had tried to have sex with her, I can't trust him around my friends because I overheard him talking with his friend one day how hot my friends were. He doesn't really support me I struggle paying bills because he doesn't help out so I'm always broke, instead he has money for alcohol and other things other than his family. Since both the kids have been born the eldest 5 and the youngest 2 he has never brought them anything I'm always the supplier of clothing, toys, food, nappies and when I say this to him his response is I haven't asked him for help, the other week I needed something and borrowed $50 from his wallet and told him I would pay him back and he yelled as screamed at me for it. I often feel as a single parent because I do everything on my own. I don't see him anymore because his at work and when he gets home his on his phone playing games ignoring the kids and I, not only that his attitude isn't nice his rude, inconsiderate and being nasty and yelling at the kids and I for nothing, the only time he wants to be nice is when he wants to have sex with me. Anyway I was pregnant a few weeks ago to with our 3rd and every time I mentioned something about the baby his response was I don't want to hear about it I haven't adjusted yet, anyway I ended up losing the baby :( I think I lost it because it didn't feel welcome or because I'm under a lot of stress. I don't feel comfortable around him, I feel as if I can't evens cough or chew food without him wanting to say something about it everything I do he judges me, I feel unloved and I cry on a daily basis I just want what's best for my kids I don't want them to see me so upset and I don't want to live a life of unhappiness I feel silly though if I leave now everyone is going to tell me how silly I was getting married and I'm going to feel awful because my poor mum and dad forked out a lot of money for the wedding, I need some advice I don't know what to do anymore I should also add any family event he doesn't hardly go he makes excuses up like his tired or sick and he speaks to everyone else like his a jerk to his own friends have even told me how do you deal with it and I just shrug my shoulders

It seems like you're the one putting 100% effort into everything. You have been through so much because of this man and he treats you so bad. I understand you have two kids but he is being so horrible. To be honest he does not treat you like a wife should be treated and he does not bother about the kids. You have also lost your third kid which i am highly sorry about. He treats you like shxt. The best thing i believe to do is take a break. If he cannot realize his priorities he is not worth the tears.m You have been so strong basically coping on your own. You need to prioritize your children because he needs to step up and act like a father and husband to your family. Stay strong. x

You would be even more silly to stay and waste any more time with him. What exactly is he good for? Get out a sheet of paper and sprit it in to two sides. on one side write how you life is better with him (does he pay the water? watch the kids? fix the sink?) then on the other half write down how your life would be better if her were gone (would you have a lower grocery bill? More peace and quiet? More freedom?) if one out ways the other then you know what your decision should be. Never feel silly about making a choice to better yourself. You only get the one life. You lost 10 years of it with him. You will never get those years back. Don't waste any more years. That was 10 years you could have met and amazing man who loves your kids like his own and would walk across a continent for you. You sound like you have parents who would be there for you. Take advantage of that and get away from this dead beat. You are in a better position then most. Don't let your opportunity for a fresh start pass you by.

Run. Your parents will love you no matter if you stay or go. Your well being is what's important. This is not love, and your children don't need to think this is how a man is supposed to treat the ones he is supposed to live and protect. You should feel comfortable in your own home, and so should your babies. Trust me. I went the other way. Wasted my life. I was just too scared and was raised that marriage is forever. Don't make the same mistake I did. Be happy!! You can do it.