How do I start over

I've been married for 27 years and I'm miserable. I have 6 kids but 3 are adult and 3 are 10.9.8.adopted.my husband hasn't been one for about 5years .2 adult children live with us and the call me names and he doesn't do anything.im a stay at home mom so I don't have a income to leave.if I could find a place e where I could cook and clean for a living and take my babies with me I would leave yesterday.i want away from here and I don't care where I'd have to move.im so depressed that sometimes I don't want to get out of bed.im heavyset and believe me I'm never allowed to forget it.i know it's crazy but my dream has always just to be a cook on a ranch and have a man to hold me when I need a good cry.i haven't heard I love you from my kids or him for so long.im 45 and my siblings are closer to me then my family.what do I do?.

Hi You seem pretty sure you want out of this marriage/lifestyle. Have you tried discussing how you feel with him or is that a stupid question? Who won't let you forget about being heavyset? Husband/ kids/ both? If you are sure this is what you want then I would advise speaking to a solicitor (free first session) and/or the citizens advice bureau to work out your rights financially. After 27 years your husband would be obligated to continue supporting you and your 3 youngest children financially so don't think you would be destitute. Also - there is child benefit/ tax credits/housing benefit and you could probably find a cleaning job if not also a cooking job. In other words there are always options My husband walked out on me 2 years ago and I never imagined how I would cope but I have. I also have 3 kids and I work part time and it works. It is doable Saying that, 27 years is a long time - and as I said at the start of this post - have you tried talking it through. Does he realise how you feel? Would he be in any way receptive? I think you yourself need to stand up to your adult kids and don't take any rubbish from them. Do you cook and clean for them also? If yes I would stop at least until they start showing some respect. Do they pay you 'rent' for living at home? If you do split from husband and the kids wanted to stay I would def charge them rent.

Yes I have begged to stop this stuff.he said he would never kick his kids out of the house but I can go anytime.i think he stop loving me years ago but doesn't want to say anything.his actions does. I don't drink.smoke do drugs and have never .I'm the no parent and he's the friend parent so I'm always the bad parent to my older ones.i would like to go to another state and start over.i just don't know what to do.