Paranoid & insecure

Hi, this is my first time on this site, I've just gone into a new relationship for the first time in 3.5 years. We've been together for 2.5 months. In the past I've been hurt a lot and cheated on, lied to and generally treated like crap. The guy I've met seems nice but doesn't always say the right things. I have major insecurity issues and issues over the way I look. Anyway my question is how do I over comet insecurities of always thinking he's cheating and not trusting him? I also can't open up to him or let myself go in the bedroom which he keeps complaining about, which just makes it worse. Please help before I push a decent bloke away. Thank you

I know how insecurity feels and a man that comments negatively about your looks, bedroom ways or anything personal to you that You're sensitive about is the wrong guy in my opinion. You do need to get a grip on your insecurities but Also a more sensitive man who makes you feel good about yourself is much better than one that comments and makes you feel bad. I know from experience. He is just making you feel more insecure by complaining about your performance in the bedroom. The right guy will be patient and let you get comfortable at your own pace. He will love you exactly the way you are. And try to recognize your good qualities. You may not see them but open your eyes and you'll be surprised. Hang in there.