My husband changed after taking testosterone injections
SJ - Dec 13 2014 at 06:39
My husband started self dosing testosterone injections when he disagreed with the doctors dosing. I really believe this is when his behavior started becoming so different. I don't even know this man. He went from a great fun loving guy to a man who calls me names and belittles me, mood swing. I recently found he is having online sex and even met up with one woman. His sex drive isn't just high its odd. When I busted him with what I found online he refused to discuss it and told me to get over it. He says he will go to marriage counseling, but will not talk about what he did online...he said he will only tell therapist why he did it. Is that acceptable in counseling? This is now his typical mind set..he says how it will go down or forget it. Is it wrong for me to want him to discuss the infidelity? I am ready to leave, and tho he doesn't want me to leave he still will not talk about? Am I wrong that therapy wouldn't even work with that attitude?
Taking testosterone injections if your new at it and do not have the correct guidance is basically like suicide-ing the lifestyle you lived before you took them. You said, "I don't even know this man." You have no idea how right you are. Testosterone is a hormone that can be found in both men and women more so in men obviously. For the male you have to realize that that's basically like the secondary fuel line setting aside nutrients and all that. Because it regulates emotions, thoughts, behavior, it also affects our bones and our muscle mass. That's why body builders like to use it and they all too often abuse it just like steroids (both are actually linked in a fashion which i wont get into). The end result is sad to say the least anyway here it is. Eventually he is going to come crashing down from this high he believes he can't fall from right now. The symptoms he is going to go through can be (and usually are).
The severity of these will depend on how he stops taking the testosterone and how long he has taken it for. (hopefully before his body becomes dependent on it.) I've been around guys who wanted so badly to get that "perfect body" that after achieving that and simply going cold turkey off of testosterone, if you didn't know them you would suspect them of being a woman who got a sex change to a male because their estrogen levels have simply stayed at the normal level while their testosterone levels have dipped below their natural level. I don't know why anyone in their right mind would want to go about tinkering with that kinda hardware. As for whether your wrong to all the questions you have asked? HELL NO. In this situation you are the most clear minded at this point. His perception at this point is severely dwarfed as far as hes concerned hes invincible and in control of the uncontrollable. I would do everything you can to get him away from crap like that.
I do hope you can get him to take couselling and even attend with him, that may test his resolve with his issue about spilling ALL the beans and only some. In my case I have been convinced my wife needed counselling but always dismissed it, until the good people in here pointed out that it was me that needed a good talking to. Nuff said but I hope he sees the right way to go, good luck.