Why is he so distant and cold now

I have met a man who I thought was wonderful caring, charming kind and sensitive . After a couple of months I had a lump and he volunteered to go with me to the doctors it turned out to be nothing but my BF had a huge row before we went and never bothered turning up anyway . He routinely lets me down on every occasion I feel is important and the other day told me that when I lose my temper he questions whether he really wants to be with someone like me this hurt me very much and has stayed with me since . I have a very pressured job and have to produce copy to a very tight deadline my BF shared my good fortune with me and I invited him to come to NYC with me where my work takes me ,paid so we could be together . He only agreed once he was assured all of his expenses would be met which I understand but he keeps making references to the money I will be making and how he can benefit from it . I have paid for the last few dates we have been on and do not resent this but am concerned that is his primary motive to be with me . On valentines day we had a huge row I was away and I had sent him a couple of romantic presents he sent me nothing and told me that since all of the women he had met previously had cheated on him he was going to take it slowly I understand that but he has so many what he terms as "girlie" friends it makes me wonder sometimes . He is always socialising with them and told me that he has broken up with many women over the number of girlfriends he has and feels he needs the right to have women as friends . He told me he often puts up shelves, sorts out plumbing and so on for his women friends , it is a little annoying that he does not appear to have many male friends at all. We had a huge row over his flirty texts on Face Book which he closed down and then set up asking the same girl to join as a friend she continued with the suggestive texts and this has created tension and mistrust . I am growing more and more distant with him , the physical aspects of our relationship are great but as I hardly ever see him I wonder if there is any point in pursuing the relationship. Today was the last straw , the other night I had been unable to pick up my phone as I was unwell and instead of finding out if all was well with me we spent all afternoon on the phone sorting out his financial issues between his former landlord and ex girlfriend . Then he cut the call short as his "friend" had texted him to go to the "gym" and he did not even bother to findout how I was feeling . I think he's pretty insensitive or just doing his best to end the relationship . Any advice would be so helpful as it's bringing me down thank xxx