How to take your true love back

I was engaged for a few years and I think I took my fiancé for granted. I did not feel I was ready to move forward even though we dated about 4 years. The love was there from both sides but he had an addiction and not a high moral standard and he would socialize with women who were flirting with him shamelessly. I was very hurt and he was the one who badly wanted us to be united family. He had a little daughter and me too. They were like sisters but also very competitive. The biggest problem was my ex husband who was trying to control my life and he did everything to set us apart. Instead of being strong, I was actually forgiving my ex and helping him out when he needed my help and ignoring feelings of my partner. My fiancé got so angry and he never forgave me my way helping my ex. He felt that my ex and I did not have an affair but he believes that my actions were inappropriate and I think so, too. There were some situations that I did not like and I was hurt but I am a forgiving person. I get angry but I get over it quickly. He has a PTSD and his anger is so big that he cannot restrain himself. He screams and yells and call me names. It is just so hurtful. I still love him and I know I have to change to motivate other people to change. His anger and his desire to flirt with women made me reserved about our future together. Now, he is dating girls and he moved on and I cry a lot. I wish I could be stronger. Since we have broken up I started missing him so much that I cannot take it easily.

I am sorry you had to go through the pain of loving someone who was addicted and abusive. It is normal after a break-up to miss the good parts of the person. It is impossible to have a relationship with and addict and an abuser ... changing your behavior will not change his behavior. Crying is a good coping mechanism. Eventually you will get past the pain and you will find someone who is emotionally stable. But you also need to get over your ex-husband before you move on to another relationship. Being involved with your ex-husband, even if there is no sex, is something that a relationship cannot survive.