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Hi, not really sure where to start. im in desperate need of some advice from someone who dosnt know me so therefore it will be impartial. im a 22 year old girl and i work full time but live at home with my parents. basically i met a guy online last january and we hit it off instantly.. we spoke constantly and really fell for each other. the only problem with this was he doesnt live in the UK. in july last year i went out to see him, and then again in september, after which point i was ready to pack my bags and move to be with him. in october time i started hearing rumours he had a child and a a girlfriend, to which he denied.... it was like a huge rollercoaster and went on and on, eventually he broke down and admitted all this but said he didnt love her but he had to stay with her because of the child. needless to say our relationship ended even though i did believe him. we still kept in contact now and again and he continued to declare his love for me (which i never doubted).... at times it got quite silly and he'd ask if we could run away together to which i told him no, he would have to face up to responsibillities and if he didnt want to be with her he had to tell her. never in my wildest dreams did i think he would do anything about it, but a few days ago he finished with her. my head is all over the place, i do love him and i want to be with him but i dont know if i can trust everything seeing as hes lied before. could i pack up my bags to be with him? theres no doubt in my mind he loves me and i can see he would do anything for me, but my concerns are this gf/ex...... will she leave him alone or keep ;pestering him (ive had voilent emails from her in the past), has he truly finished with her? i have sent her an email to ask and he gave me her number but i didnt want to txt as i dotn want her to have my number and i just dont feel comfortable doing it. but all in all would you risk a lot to be with someone you consider to be your soulmate.... even if your not sure of whats going to happen?? hopefully somebody can help me.... Thanks

Hello, you are with this guy who does not live in UK, I understand this is really hard situation for you, because even though you have relationship with him, you were not around him. If you are going to live with him, are you moving to another country? How about your working situation, would you be able to find work there?? It is so hard to make the decision! About his ex, as long as you can tell that he is completely done with her, I think you should be confident and tell her to stop bothering you guys, or hopefully he tells her too! Is he the father of his ex\'s child? Then it could be hard too, because even they are over, they need to contact each other about their child... If I were you, I will make sure that I am able to be on my own there, like being able to work there. You don\'t want to be completely depending on him!!And before decide everything, I will make sure about this guy has told you everything you need to know and ask how serious he is! I am sure you both talked about that. It is so hard to know everything when you have long distance relationship...but I am soo glad that you both are working that together! hope you will find good answer! Maybe you could visit him again before you completely move into his place, so that you can figure out and make sure he is done with ex and completely ready for you to move in there! Hope best for you!goodluck