I really don't knw wt do do gtng mad :(

my name is ani...i joined an Ngo in my last summer vcationx....i wax happy cox everythng gng gud...ppl at there wax gud....there 2 guyx were my fav 1 wax sam n othr was wasim bhai.....both were too much helpinh n protective lyk a bro....near the eid-dul-fitr we xchngd the nbr from there we strt txtng mst of the tym i txt sam bhai till dat tym he wax really sam bhai ...bt as i told u we txt alot each othrx over nightx...bt i txt hm as a bro we did alot of gupshup dnt knw whn his feelngs for me gtng chagd......he proposd me he is a nyc guy i accpt his proposal....he alwayx said 1 sentence "kash tm mja phly mili hoti" i wax takn it lightly....he told me 1 girl ix already in his lyf i luv u bt cnt marry we will b frnd 4 4evr thn he strtx no cnt liv widout u i cnt c u wid any 1....thn 1 day wasim bhai txt hr gf n dat txt sdn me mistknly in dat name of the grl wax mentnd i askd nxt day 4rm sam who ix she he told me she ix her fancy n 4rm lst 6 yearx will i mange wid hr?i wax ok thn he srt my frndshp wid hr we become gud frnx i nvr told hr im hr fancy gf cox he told whn tym will come i will told everybody....1 day i did smthng n become rude to hr 4rm there game changd n she strtx fightng wid me n strtx sam k u luv hr go wid hr leave me n bla bla....nw wtx da condition he still in war condition n she ix 4rm sam sistr in lawx so hr sistrx insultd me twise y am i intrfarng in their lyf bt i cnt tell thm cox sam askd me not to do dis n if i ever try 2 leave him he attmpt smtnh wrng wid hm....n alwayx ask me 2 set wid hr make ur frndshp again.......nw tell me wt to do

Is there anyway you can leave this situation? From what I was able to gather, it seems like this whole situation with sam is too complicated, and sam has issues. He’s not treating you like you should be treated. Why are you with him when he is involved with someone else? Obviously, you want to resolve this situation, but you don’t need this drama with sam and the other woman he’s with. I think you should break up with sam. Find some way you can protect yourself or find some place safe that you can go, just in case sam does try to get back at you for trying to leave him. Do you know anyone who can help you?

datx the problem i cnt move anywhere cox studing in uni :(n i really luv him :'(....i tried alot 2 leave him bt i nvr successful in dix......he luvx me alot whenever i had any type of problem he is always wid me ...his home far away 4rm my uni 4rm my home bt whnevr i got late he dropd me at home ....and he is always wid me whatevr the condition is...thats why i thought i can bear hr fancy as 2nd wife in his life n will live happily 4 such nice person bt now mental toucher of her fancy make me made n made with the passage of time...we never fight with each other bt now every 2nd day we have fight hix syng u changng u are coprative as before...bt instead of all this he still dont want to leave me.....i seen alot of scenes when he became out of his mind whenever i said finish all this let me move he did too bad with him....i am really getting mad i really want to move bt i cnt i thought n searching 4 schlorships if i get any i thought i will move abroad ....nw u tell me

I wish I had a cut and dry answer. If you can’t leave the relationship due to control issues, then just make your life as livable as possible until you get the chance. It won’t be easy, but if there is someway you could get a chance, take it. It may take hundreds of tries, but I encourage you to keep trying. The scholarship idea is a good one. Try to take advantage of the events at the university. If you can’t do that, you can try to share this with someone at the university. If that isn’t possible, then you can continue to write about your problem (try to e-mail the site administrator here or use other resources on the web and other places online to get more help). You can continue to write me here if you want to talk or if you think I can be more helpful to you. YOU SEEM UNSURE: In your posts, you indicate the good things about Sam, as if you are trying to rationalize his behavior or give him the benefit of the doubt. If you are not sure you want to leave him, I would recommend making a decision. I know you have tried many times to leave, and it may require many more tries. Are you up to that (I personally think you should never give up trying, because if you do he wins and you are still miserable.)? You may love the guy, but the situation is not working for you at all. I mean, if he loves you so much, why can’t you do what you want to do? You are an individual and are capable of making your own decisions. Why can’t he make you the only woman in his life? Why do you have to be okay with the fact that he has a wife and he can’t marry you? I mean, why does he get to have more than one woman, but you have to stick with him (Talk about your double standard…He should practice what he tells you to do…). You don’t have to agree with everything he says, and if he doesn’t like it, that’s his problem. You can change your mind about what you agree to, especially since he has decided that you’ll never leave him. Sam is obsessed and overly possessive. I wish you much luck, and I’m praying that you get the chance for a better life. TILES

how to contect with administrater...and what type of help they provide me?.....and he want to marry with other girl because in past some bad situation happened to dat girl and he thinks some where that was because of him...i want alot the girl completly move from his life and he become only and only mine please suggest me what to do

Look at the Useful Articles, Resources, and About This Site sections of this website. These resources may be able to help you. The administrator's e-mail is on the About This Site page. Sam has made his choice. What happened to her may not be his fault, but he has decided what he wants to do. The girl won't be out of his life if he continues to involve her in it. Really, there is nothing you can do for Sam until Sam decides to move on with only you. You can talk with him about it, but it doesn't look like he will change his mind. So you can move on from him in some way or stay in a relationship where you can't get what you want. Is the relationship you have with Sam now enough for you? I don't think it is. I would recommend trying to move on. Or you could give him an ultimatum, either choose you or choose her. If he still wants to marry her, then treat him like he is a friend and nothing more.