Suicidal girlfriend

I had relocated to a smaller town last year February. I didn't like it much. It was too quiet. After some time I acclimatized. I met someone in June that year. She got my number from one of my colleagues at work. I was going back home and she needed a lift as she also had family in my hometown that she needed to visit. At first, she seemed very interested in me. I was interested in her too. Little did I know that I was just a rebound. We started dating. Things went well for the first month. I was growing to love her more and more as the days went on. Then the problems started...her ex, her parental issues...it was disastrous...she went out with a guy for about 6 years...on and off...the comparison started...she made me feel so inadequate as a person that I tried harder just to make her happy. She had a very nasty childhood...she had been living with her dad at the time who was an alcoholic...and to top it off she was still contacting her ex. When she was overstressed, she used to cut her wrists. This was something really new for me. So I decided that I need to start supporting her. I got her a flat, payed her bills, motivated her. She was happy, at least that's what I thought. I caught her cheating on me last year October with her ex. There was no remorse when she broke up with me. She just laughed. I tried contacting her, she just laughed and patronized me. In December, she started contacting me again, saying that we should be friends, which I agreed to. Probably the worst decision ever. We met in December, she invited me into her apartment and one thing led to another. She had told me that she made a wrong choice and that she was really sorry. And so we started dating again. The first few months were great. Now it is completely different. She still chats to her ex. She says that they're all grown up now. She makes me feel so inadequate as a person. Mocks my career and dreams. She shouts all the time. Sometimes about the stupidest things. She's so erratic in the sense that one second she wants to marry me and the next she doesn't want to even see me. I come from a very close family. I have certain values that are built into me. Certain borders I would never cross. I have no idea as to what I should do. Should I continue being miserable and insecure? Or should I break things off...with the possible outcome of her ending her life...I have no clue...please help!

You shouldn't have to put up with the fact that she treats you like crap. You cannot help her be a better person until she helps herself. Based on what you have said, she is not looking to be better. She is stuck, and she just wants you along for the ride whenever she feels like having you around. This is not healthy for her or for you. She is verbally abusive to you because she feels like that is a way for her to have control of her life. But, this is no excuse. Option 1: I suggest that you break up with her for good. If she ever says she will commit suicide, let her know that you love her but you can no longer watch her be destructive to herself and to the relationship that you have with her. What she does with her life is up to her, and she can't just treat you however she wants. Even if she tells you that she will change, I would still break up with her, because it always gets to the point where you feel miserable and degraded. Option 2: If it is difficult for you to make a clean break, only talk to her when she is not insulting. If you choose this option, be friends with her, but don't go beyond that. TILES

Hey TILES, Thanks for the advice. Things are really bad now. But I have decided that we should go our seperate ways. It is easier said than done, but it is the only way. I have to get out of this place a.s.a.p. Keep in touch. Thanks again superman