Why can't I get to that point?

When i am interested in a woman, and i want to be intimate with her, she doesnt want me. Why? I try to be nice, understanding, and caring. I am all these things. Only thing that i can figure out is that i am overwieght. Help!

I don't think you should TRY to be 'nice, understanding and caring'. Just be yourself. Sometimes when you try too hard, nothing materializes. And don't be impatient. If things are meant to happen then they will. If you feel that women don't want to be intimate with you because you're overweight, then do something about it.