What to do? Stay or leave?

I'm 50 and my partner a year older, we've been together 14 years and have two children, about 3 years ago my partner started with the menopause and this has caused us enough problems to last a lifetime, to cut a long story short, I've supported her with her choice of homeopathic remedies (due to the stories she's heard about HRT, she's now on HRT, so she tells me, but I have my doubts). I've been behind her every inch of the way and have been very very patient with her, it's 2 years since we've been intimate in any way and she says it's just the way she is and I'll have to live with it. I've spent many hours trying to discuss things with her, like, how we can get our sex lives back on track and she now won't entertain any attempt to talk to me about it, if I try, she goes upstairs. She's never initiated sex in all the time we've been together and would (note, would) let me do all the work (oral etc) and she would never reciprocate. I feel like letting her have the house and walking away as I feel I'm going to loose my sanity, I am already taking antidepressants to get me through the day, at this moment in time, she is out of the house but, I'm dreading her coming home and I don't want to be here anymore, I'd be quite happy to leave and start afresh. Thank you.

If you have tried every possible avenue, and not getting anywhere, then for your own sanity I'm thinking that you're probably correct in considering moving on. It is clearly taking a toll on your health. However, if it is just the sex that is causing all the stress, but you really love each other and want to stay together, maybe you should be up front about it, and say that you are going to go and get sex from somewhere else to satisfy your needs, and see where it goes from there. I know of someone who has a close relationship with their partner (married), but have an arrangement that is accepted within the relationship... basically that sex isn't part of the relationship, and they are both happy to meet new people for sex.

Hey you've been together for 14 years and I don't think that it's time to give up now. That's the risk at the relationships. Comunication is the most important thing in a relationship. But when words doesn't work, try with actions. I'm sure there are things you can enjoy together. So find it. No matter if it's a shared hobby, dance class,daily walk or sitting over a cup of coffee in the morning......Just try do something new together. That can be fun way to connect. Invite her to try some new restaurant, or go on a day trip place you've never been before. Make her laugh not cry.

Thanks for the replies, the reason I stated "to cut a long story short" is the fact I've tried everything in my power, I've taken her out to very special places, theatre, concerts, restaurants, weekends away, you name it, I reckon I've asked her to try it or asked her to suggest something she'd like to do, as for making her laugh, I do this on a daily basis as I look for humour in everything that happens. I am a very humourus person, that humourous in fact that I was once asked to be a warm up man for an up and coming comedian, I have tried believe me, I cannot think of anything else I can do or say, she just flattly refuses to talk to me about the problem. Actions speak louder than words, so I might just pack a bag and go to a mates in Scotland for a few days and tell her I'm not coming back, as far as I'm concerned I've nothing to loose.