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I'm average looking, I'm selfish, I'm not trustworthy, I'm lonely, I'm dirty minded, I'm daring, I'm awkward, I'm athletic, I'm loose with time, I'm judgmental, I'm helpful, I give in to peer pressure easily, I've average grades, I mask myself, I'm a liar. Im suffering from really bad loneliness. This has gone on for a few months already. I've confided in a few friends hu can't seem to really help me. One sai it would eventually go away and another said that if I went clubbing everything would be fine. But it's not. It's really bad and I've found myself "liking" many girls but never actually going for them. This has led to me being labelled a guy hu keeps changing the girl he likes. I've even considered visiting a social escort to satisfy my need for physical and emotional assurance. but haven't don't so cause it's wrong I think. I've once even taken on a fake identity as a girl so as to get prenty of attention from people, mainly guys. I cannot confide in my parents. I cannot confide in my teachers the whole truth I cannot find the solution...

Doofy, You sound like every young guy I know, so don't despair. :) You didn't mention your age but I'd guess you're somewhere around your late teens/early twenties. Loneliness is a sad state, but there is hope. Clubbing isn't the answer, unless you're looking for shallow hookups (sometimes those aren't bad, but long term they're not satisfying). First of all, RELAX....you are a normal guy going through normal feelings. If you can, find someone you can speak with....a friend who will listen, a teacher, counselor.....there are people at your school who are happy to help you. Second, what do you like to do? Sports, volunteering? You mentioned you're athletic and helpful. Look around your school and town and see if there is a club or community service you can join. Sure some of this sounds like cliche advise, but if you get out and about, meet up with some other people who share your interests, you'll see the lonliness and negative thoughts will start to be replaced by more positive ones. Good luck, Tara

Doofy, do you have any homosexual feelings towards guys that you are maybe not admitting to yourself? I am not passing judgement but if you are hiding your true sexuality then this would explain your feelings and your only "liking" many girls. I would recommend coming out asap - the sooner the better, I have seen what staying in the closet will do to a guy and I would not want that to happen to you. It will be hard at first but you will be sooo much happier in the long run. Of course, if you are not gay then as the other reader says, just relax, you are young and trying to figure out who you are...you will get there in the end we all do :-) Take care.