My broken relation with my dad

Hello, first of all, i'd really be happy if u read and reply to my message, i badly need advice... so, I come from holland, 16 years of age. my parents divorced when i was 11, and had lots of trouble with it, emotionally. the situation was : 3 weeks @ mum's place, 1 week @ dad's place. My dad got remarried and got 2 new children, and i love them too death. the relation with my mum ( witch isnt remarried) is very good, i can talk to her about my feelings, etc etc. but the relation with my dad has been horrible since i can remember, we are very different in emotional value, and we dont agree on certain aspects, witch i am totally fine with. but we do have a big argue once in a while cuz my dad finds out once again our relation is bad, we talk, and we both en up in tears cuz our relation is so bad. i dont have a problem with it, i just dont want argues and want the best as posible... we have been to a therapist before and it didnt help very well... so now after a big argue things blew up again, he told me straight up again " i am no value to the family" he doesnt want to accept the fact things cant be perfect, witch is our relation. i havent seen him now for 6 weeks, we've mailed in the first 2-3 to try to solve things. wich didnt work out either. now things are getting sirious my entire family are getting involved and are pushing me to solve it. wich i cant. i think its not my fault the relation with my dad is bad, i accept it, i try to improve it, but i cant, wich is fine. he blames be that our relation is bad. witch makes me feel ;( right now i ofcourse want the relation with my dad back, but i also want all the worries that the rest of my family has towords me away. i feel treated different and pushed. BUT most important i miss the children of my dad the most, witch i love so much, i miss them and think about them every day. i even have been thinking about giving in to my father and roleplay everything is perfect. just to see them ! ive been with them for 4 years and my bond is so big with them. every evening i think about it and often cry about it. if u made it to here THANKS ! for reading. and PLEASE post a message how u feel with this and maybe ADVICE! <3

First off, I'm not familiar with the Holland culture. I am of Polynesian decent, but I was born and raised in the US. In my native culture, we are taught to respect our elders and give way to them; which falls in line with my Christian faith...that children should honor their parents. On that same note, parents are not provoke their children. But the saying holds true, "It takes two to tangle!" And all will not be solved until you both come to a compromise. I'm certain there's much more to your story. As I have shared with our youth, you cannot control the other person...you can only control yourself. So if you want things to change, start with yourself.