Relationship advice needed
DAFFODILS - Aug 14 2024 at 15:50
My boyfriend and I are of same age. My boyfriend is studying in a tier 1 engineering college and I am studying in a Tier-3 engineering college. He has already secured an internship. We were discussing about future plans and stuff. I told him I cannot live with his parents if it’s like a flat you know like 2/3 rooms, 1 kitchen , 1 bathroom type. I haven’t grown up in a joint family so I am used to having a lot of space in my own house. So I cannot live in that suffocated manner-4 ppl cohabiting in 2/3 rooms. He kinda didn’t like that maybe and I said sorry later. I slept over that issue as it is in the future. Later on while talking about marriage, I told him we need to get married before we turn 28. To which he said that he would listen to his parents and when his parents would tell him to marry, he would marry. And later on after me telling him, it’s not possible, he said he is ready to marry at the age of 25 but I will need to find a job/ settle down in career or else he WON'T marry (he mentioned that in caps). I feel like he is doing me a favor by staying in this relationship. We have kissed and made out. I am emotionally connected to him. Also my parents know about him.
What should I do? Should I continue this relationship? How would I explain my parents about the breakup? I don't want to tell them this reason. Can anybody suggest something?
To be frank, you guys need to get your degrees first before you even talk about anything else. Your gut will tell you what's going with your relationship & if your head & heart don't line up with it, then it's quite likely not going to work out. Be honest with your parents if it does go pear shape because your parents would have seen the signs long ago.
If you know that you're not going to be happy with this guy, then just walk away when you can & get on with your life without this guy's demands. You need to realise that when a man truly loves a woman, he doesn't put conditions or demands on her, no matter where they are in their relationship together.
Thanks a lot for your advice.
Are you good, Daffodils, or do you have any questions/need to go into detail?