Not feeling wanted sexually

I have been on here before So sorry if my posts seems a little like the last one. Should I be happy with little touches here and there from him and be grateful when I get it in return? I just don’t feel my husband wants much sex with me it gives me the affection I crave. I like a lot of touch and affection but don’t get much from him. Plus I also say to have sex most of the time. He will hold my hand when we go out and touch my breasts and bum now and then when out. At home we sit holding hands watching the tv. I turn to give him a kiss because he sits on my left side. He has never turned to me to kiss me. I tell him I like affection and tell me to touch me more but it’s like he’s not listening. He says he is doing these things. With oral he tells me he is not bothered if I do it to him. We have it maybe every few weeks. Then when I give it to him he enjoys it and he says it makes him come quick and he shouldn’t let me give him a blow job. I realise he would like more but doesn’t want to ask for it. I’ve told him to tell me what he wants and if I want to do it I will if not I won’t but he never asks for anything. Should I offer sex on tap or give my affection to him when I don’t get much in return. If I don’t touch him much like hugs, touching his arm, kissing him then I will be missing out. I don’t feel at all desired in or out of bed. I do my best and dress up for him not all the time but I make the effort.

I'll answer your question from a man's perspective. First of all you shouldn't be happy with a little touches he gives you if it's not enough for you. But your feeling of your husband not wanting much sex with you might be not right because it's based only on what you see. You should ask him directly and tell him everything you feel and what you want from him. Man do not understand hints so you should be very direct. Why king of clothes you wearing at home? Did you ask him why he doesn't kiss you? Many man won't ask you to please him with oral directly because it doesn't seems like a right thing to ask. But nobody will ever say no to it. So you can initiate it whenever you want. Try to spice thing up a little and do it somewhere outside home. Also when doing oral just don't make him cum and start initiating sex. Again the best thing is to tell him your feelings straight and then start from there. But don't be angry with him or rude. Just kindly start asking him questions.

(Cor, you answered three! Aren't you sweet - THANK-you, Gem - do keep going! :))