No desire for sex

Hey! This is my 1st post. Umm I'm a normal (mostly) 40 year old mum of 3. I have a partner. We've been together solidly now for 6 years (on and off for many years before that( but that's a whole another story. Basically since having our twins 5 years ago, we have hardly had sex. I mean when I say hardly ever, the last time was about 2 months ago. So yea, basically never. It's mainly me. I have no sex drive whatsoever. I won't lie, I do sometimes pleasure myself but with toys. I find that better than sex with my partner. That sounds so bad but because we leave it so long it's all over pretty quickly so I don't get anything out of it. I find that then disappointing. I love my partner but sometimes I feel we just co-exist as parents to our kids. We are quite busy. I mean as a house of 5, of course it's busy. We also don't have time away from the kids, just for us as a couple. We also have a child with additional needs. Anyway, I think I will leave this post here. Any feedback, greatly received Thanks 😊

NonStopMum3, .....That alias said it all anyway. (PS Hi!) Relax... It's COMPLETELY NORMAL after you've had kids. Doesn't last forever, it's just a stage. (Have you had your hair cut short as well, out of interest?) Saying that, a sex therapist could definitely help. Have you two discussed this option?

PS: Does he use a condom or you, the pill? If you don't, then that would explain it in one hit. You're already over-worked/stretched - think about it. Your inner animals knows it (emotionally, I mean), even if you don't. Why the hell would it want you to even RISK getting impregnated again. PPS: Does your husband want you to have another?

Our lives Want to pour out What has been gathered Through our six senses What has connected and been believed in, grown in our heart and mind When I make love to my true love Its because I am full of so many connections of truth and love, light That I can't help myself from wanting to pour out on him In gratitude In celebration For all that he is

.........."And all because........the lady loves..........Milk Tray"...... (dah-DAAAH, daddle ah-da).... (*skis back down again) Little known psych fact, everybodypeeps (but espec the blokies): Foreplay, for a woman, begins the minute you and she get out of bed that morning. (Poor old men, awwwww....wimmin are SSSSUCH hard work.., cuh...... If only there they featured a 'downstairs' On button..... snot fair, izzit.)

NSM, "Anyway, I think I will leave this post here. Any feedback, greatly received" You don't have to leave it there? Who said? Not me?! Carry on if you want to? This isn't a MacForum, it's supposed to be for long-haulers who want to get to the actual root of their problems (and rip the bugger out for-good)... an Egon Ronay establishment, air, years... And we 'whistle' while we work so it can be fun as you go. Feel free to continue about all the other associative stuff. :) It IS all connected, anyway. (PS: Thuh-REEEE kids?! Whassamatter - can't you two afford a Telly?) (*ducks and runs)