Ex pretended I'm not me so he could kiss me

So, I used to date this guy let's call Keeran and we broke up a couple weeks ago but we've still been in contact (ik bad but here we are). Whilst dating, he always said he was unable to kiss or really touch me in clubs bc it made him uncomfortable. Sucks but I have to respect that. However, the other night we were out and he had to pretend I wasn't who I actually was to some people, and because of this he was able to make out with me for the first time ever in a club. This has made me feel kind of upset because it's almost as if he can't kiss me if he isn't pretending I'm someone I'm not. It's also been in the past that he can't even dance with me unless he's incredibly drunk, which sucked too. Am I over reacting about being upset about this? I haven't really bought it up with him yet and idk If I should. Thanks.

You're either with this bloke or you're not. It's pretty simple really whether you're just gonna put up with being a doormat to a loser even though you broke up with him. At the end of the day, it comes down when you're going to walk away from him or you're going to continue with being disrespected badly & then go looking for advice whether to bring it up with him?!. Start being kind to yourself by blocking him out of your life & understand that he doesn't need an explanation as to why. You walking away means that you're taking charge, setting boundaries which mean that you will no longer put up with bs from halfwits who drag you down to their level.

I'm kind of 50/50 on this issue. I think it depends on why he is uncomfortable doing these things. And it's also worth noting that, like you said, you haven't yet discussed it with him. Why does the guy have to pretend you're someone different around certain people? I feel like there's a lot more to this. I don't really get why you're still kissing and stuff if you've broken up. I get that some couples can split up and remain friends, and somehow it works out. I also don't know the nature of your relationship. Honestly, that's probably the bigger issue here - why are you two still kissing and touching since you broke up?

"So, I used to date this guy let's call Keeran and we broke up a couple weeks ago but we've still been in contact (ik bad but here we are). Whilst dating, he always said he was unable to kiss or really touch me in clubs bc it made him uncomfortable. Sucks but I have to respect that. However, the other night we were out and he had to pretend I wasn't who I actually was to some people, and because of this he was able to make out with me for the first time ever in a club. This has made me feel kind of upset because it's almost as if he can't kiss me if he isn't pretending I'm someone I'm not. It's also been in the past that he can't even dance with me unless he's incredibly drunk, which sucked too. Am I over reacting about being upset about this? I haven't really bought it up with him yet and idk If I should. Thanks." Let's not. Let's called him Queerman. (That's better.) Here's what he's up to: He did the Player 'breaking up but not'...'LET'S STAY FWIEEENDS' (no, let's not). Keeping you warmed on the side because he's chasing someone else and - because he thinks you're safely hooked already - can afford to neglect you whilst he does so. He's probably multi-multi-dating. That explains the nightclub nonsense. He's unable tobe SEEN touching and kissing you in clubs (the diff that makes all the diff). He was able to do so the other night because they hadn't met you, so didn't realise you were "his recent ex", hence, he could pass you off as A or The new squeeze he's been tellng them about. Note this demonstrates that he plays, including lies to, i.e. DUPES, his so-called friends, too (ugh). If they'd known who you really were and by the same token, whom you were NOT, they'd have known that he's a cheater/player. He probably sensed he needed to warm you back up again (ready for waiting some more on-the-side). When he's broken his own rule and danced with you it's been because he's been stinking drunk, having lost all 'sensible-ness' and self-control, meaning, has thrown all caution to the wind. Saying that - dancing is easier to dress up as totally innocent/no biggie, 'just DANCING ffs?!'. NOPE - NOT overreacting. UNDER-reacting. But not even that because you can't do either unless you have a solid frame of reference to know wtf is going on whenever you can't see. He's not WORTH questioning. Just dumping. Sozzies. :( But look at it this way: some really nice bloke is still busy being baked that last bit in the oven (whether developmental or recovery), so Fate had to find a way to slow you down and get you in-synch with the moment he pops out (with your name on him). Sooner you dump this dud, sooner you won't miss your (or even just one of many potentials!) newly-baked boyfriend. And that's ANOTHER reason why Narcs don't want you but refuse to let you go. Some GENUINE bloke might get you, meaning, Bang goes one of his ready-and-waiting emotional slaves and dumping grounds (should he quickly need another replacement). WHADDA CUH-REEEP! Don't let a creep stand in the way of you and your intended! (Have you dumped him already?)