Does he like me romantically or as a friend?

So there’s a guy I’ve been friends with for 4 years now. I never really saw him in a romantic light until a situation happened about 4 weeks ago. We were both at a party and at that point, all my other friends have gone home and it was only me and him left. I went up to him and he put his arm around my shoulder and we danced together with his cousins and his cousin’s partners. After like 30 minutes he whispered to me if I want to go outside with him. I agreed and we went outside where he hugged me and we stayed in that hugging position for 1 and a half hours while we just talked. Then we sat down and talked for another hour. Then we went back outside, hugged for another 30 minutes before I had to leave. I said goodbye and he gave me a kiss on the cheek and I left. The week after that we were at the birthday party of a mutual friend of ours and he kind of ignored me? We talked, sure, but never just the two of us. To be fair, there were a lot of our mutual friends there, so maybe he just didn’t want to do anything in front of all our friends. (At least that’s what I tell myself.) Now, the week after that (bear with me) I texted him to ask if he would be at the party on Saturday. He texted back: „idk“. That’s it. Nothing more. I ended up not going to that party anyways, meaning we didn’t see each other that week. Another week after that (this week) we went on another party. It was his birthday that day which means that all his cousins and family were at the party. And he also had to work at the party (don’t ask, I’m not going to bother explaining). I wished him happy birthday and we talked like a handful of times but only very very briefly. When his shift ended, he spent all his time with his cousins and family (which I understand cause it’s his birthday but still…). I spent the evening with some other friends. At the end of the evening he was standing with his family and I was with my friends group. We were standing a little apart but we could see each other. We constantly had eye contact and looked at each other. And at one point he did this: 🤷‍♂️. And I did it back and then he went home with his family and I went home as well. Soooooooo, I’m kinda confused. I have no idea if he has any interest in me or if it was kinda just platonic. After that first situation I couldn’t sleep for days cause I didn’t know if I liked him or not. I came to the conclusion that, yes, I probably, very likely, do like him romantically. But now he’s like that??? Yeah, what do you guys think?

Nah, he's just one of those typical airhead young males who doesn't know his arse from his right elbow. This bloke is dictating the terms of your 4 year old 'platonic' relationship whether he realises it or not & it's leaving your head all over the shop. Just remember that he asked & you agreed to go outside with him which basically means that you trust him. If you really need answers to his questionable actions, then get in his face & ask him direct where you stand with him. Stop kidding yourself & making excuses for his boorish behaviour .. sit him down because his actions need a serious explanation as to why he would snob you in front of your mutual friends after you were good enough for him to hug for donkey's just a week prior. Step up & take control of the situation & you'll quite likely have your answers.. & you'll most definitely leave him in NO doubt where he stands with you. Good Luck.

Hi Kenna, Have the two of you really stayed in contact over the phone or anything in between these weekends? If all he has really mustered is "Idk", and you haven't really talked lately asise from that night, you have to ask yourself why that is. He could be embarrassed or may have moved on from that moment. Or maybe he's just been busy. But he didn't really clue you in to anything, and that's the main problem.

Kenna, "After like 30 minutes he whispered to me if I want to go outside with him." You don't WHISPER to a platonic friend - 'Do you want to go outside?' - like he did. You just say - 'Let's go outside - I'm hot (or whatever)'. Or - 'I'm popping outside - you coming?'. At normal volume. Whispering it like that means - 'Dya wanna go where no-one can see us and 'av a snog?' It's not you - it's definitely him. Could he have popped an Ecstasy or something, as made him all over-cuddly or amorous?...and then - because he doesn't want to ruin your friendship - thought better of it/lost his bottle?...and is now 'leaving it a bit' to create distance from the event to (like Balance suggests) make the next time you and he see each other (properly) less "awks"?