Should I or shouldn’t I

Husband came home in the afternoon and said, Can I ask you a favour. In the morning we had ignored each other because the day before we had been arguing over things and it all just made me upset and I started shouting. I was shouting loudly when we were having a walk and he slepted down stairs from me like he has done many times in the past. He didn’t make my breakfast or sandwiches which he usually does and we did not say one word or send a message to each other all day. He did not ask how I was or to go out and talk it was just about the money straight away when he came home. I blew my top. Our son was upstairs but I could not help but feel angry and shouted and I think that he only wanted to talk to borrow money off me. He needs £300 to put down for a deposit on a car he needs for work. He already as a car but it needs alot doing on it and it has done a lot if mileage too. He says he would pay me back which would be next week when he gets paid. He needs a car for work because he travels a lot and he borrowed over £1,000 last year from me and he said he would pay it back but I have still not got it from him. We were supposed to be staying away for the night tomorrow to go to the theatre and away on holiday two days later. He paid for the holiday and the theatre is a gift when it was his birthday from our kids. I have a car but he still needs one for his job and mine is very small so not ideal for long travelling. I told him to ask our son who has money saved and he said forget it. I’m so f….n annoyed because I seem to come in handy when he wants money and I know I will get the £300 back but I never did with the other money I lent him and never will. He is only asking me because I got left some money when my mum died. I don’t have much left of the money and he asked his boss could he lend some money but it won’t be in account until a couple of days. I don’t want to give him it because I’m so angry and annoyed the first words out of his mouth were, Can I ask you a favour. If I knew I was not going to get the £1,000 back I would not if ever borrowed him it last year. I think he won’t ask our son because he as not been really talking to him and if he asks him for money, our son might think why all of a sudden his dad wants to know him when he hasn’t been really talking to him. If he does not get the car then he won’t have it for work and the one he has now will not last much longer. We can still go to the theatre and to the holiday in my car but its small and compact and I’ve never travelled far in it. His car has always been bigger because of his job. He is a sales man and spends most of his time travelling and in his car so he as always wanted a better car got himself because if this. He didn’t ask me how I got on when I told him I gave blood when I haven’t been able to give it the past couple of times. I had told him I gave it but he didn’t asked how it went. He said he didn’t ask because we started arguing over other things but I told him about giving blood before the arguing began. He has no savings at all and gets paid at the end of each month. He said if I asked him for the money he would borrow me it. What should I do. Lend him the money but know he doesn’t care how I am or how I’m feeling and feel like a bank to him or let him ask our son if he does ask him?

I am totally confused about all this lending money between spouses. There is no sense of unity at all. His car his job my money his money. Its not even the household. How you all gonna pay the bills if he doesnt have a job?

What do you think of him not asking me how I was or to go out and talk ?