I locked my sister in her room , now its my turn advice please ?

2 days ago i had a massive row with my older sister, i got angry and locked her in her room, i only meant her to be there for a hour or so , well anyway my friend rang me, i got distracted and went out with friends, i forgot about my sister, my parents came home 5 hours later and found my sister still locked in her room, my parents went made and said they are going to give me a taste of my own medicine, they said i will be spending the WHOLE weekend LOCKED IN MY ROOM as a punishment, as i write i am locked in my room, and i DONT like it, my parents say i am getting my JUST DESSERTS ADICE PLEASE ?

I think your parents are likely trying to teach you empathy. You can be mad about it and focus on how badly you're being treated, or you can make the effort (and it can be really hard) to see it from their and your sister's POV, i.e., practice empathy. It can feel bad to learn empathy since it sometimes forces you take sides against yourself and if you're doing it right, it also means holding yourself accountable, as in, you own whatever you did that was hurtful and make amends, whatever that may require (which probably would have something to do with an apology to your sister and perhaps some foot rubs). But it is your choice. It's your character that you're growing. My final advice: Careful of confusing explanations with excuses. An explanation of why you did something (I forgot she was locked in) does not let you off the hook for having done it. It might make it easier (for others) to understand why it happened, but it doesn't change that it happened. You can offer an explanation to help someone want to forgive you but it doesn't mean that person has to forgive you. Good luck and try to be nicer to your sister! :)

i only meant my sister to be locked in her room for about an hour or so i did forget, what made thighs worse was my sister missed her driving lesson, my punishment was to spend last weekend locked in my room i lost my phone tv , pc etc, i had to eat in my room and was only let out for the bathroom , as i have exams latter this year my parents made me do schoolwork while locked in my room, i was set work in maths english sceince and french, i also had to write 2 four page punishment essays one on unaceptable behavour and punishment, and another on why its important to get on with family members, being locked up was a HORRBLE punishment advice please ?

What you’re describing is exactly what Playingthru meant. You’re focusing almost entirely on how horrible YOUR punishment felt, but that’s the lesson: your sister likely felt scared, powerless, and angry too. She didn’t choose to be locked in. What you experienced is similar to what you forced your sister to experience. Except she had no food, no toilet access, and missed an important driving lesson because of it. Saying you “only meant an hour” and that you “forgot” explains what happened, but it doesn’t excuse locking someone in a room in the first place. That’s a serious escalation of a conflict and potentially unsafe. Your parents’ punishment sounds strict, but it was structured: schoolwork, essays, limited freedom. That’s very different from impulsively imprisoning someone during an argument. My advice here is the same as above: stop centering how unfair this feels to you, acknowledge the harm you caused, and apologize properly. That’s what empathy and accountability look like.

I have said sorry to my sister, she accepts that i dint mean for her to miss her driving lesson but she also said i deserved to be punished, my parents punishment was VERY strict, they woke me up at 6am on the saturday morning after a shower and breakfast i was locked in my room for the rest of the day, my other sister ( not the one i locked in ) she is a school teacher ( not at my school) it was she who set me my schoolwork to do, i had maths , science, french english and history , i spent many hours working at my desk, my parents set nme two punishment essays to write plus a letter of apology to my sister, my parents said i was not going to waste my lock up time doing nothing so a lot of work was set, lights out and bed 9pm, i had to endure 2 days of this punishment, i missed out on a lot my friends all went bowling on saturday then off to the cinema on sunday, i know i did wrong but do you think i deserved such a strict punishment ?

Hmmm....Personally, I do think I agree with you, Dizzy, and understand that your issue is not about why or the fact you were punished, but more why it felt overly out-of-kilter with the crime. Yeah... it sounds like it was a bit over-the-top to me...an entire weekend. Personally, as a parent, I would have made the punishment fit the crime by making you do 5 hours too. Or maybe one day, in recognition of the fact your sister indeed didn't, unlike you, have access to the loo. But yeah, it's not exactly 'an eye for an eye' is it; it's two eyes and a nose. I don't know... Were your parents very, very shocked and it affected the sentance they passed? (Were they ever locked-up as kids, do you know?...or bullied by their siblings?...might you have hit a nerve?) Still, you could have been set work that benefitted the family, rather than you (e.g. house or garden work). I mean, that extra schoolwork will have given you a definite advantage so, that's something (assuming you wish to be able to afford many more bowling and cinema outings once you leave education and get a career job, whilst your friends perhaps end up spending their days asking their clients if they'd like fries with that? ;)) A helpful punishment, at least... Does that answer your question?

PS: Next time, make it your whole family you lock in, haha! Problem solved! (only joshing) (it IS quite funny if you think about it)

my parents gave me 2 days because my sister missed her driving lesson, plus my sister hates confined spaces so that is why i locked her in , when my parents found her still locked in she was banging and screaming on her door, she said that she had panic attacks and had no idea how long she would be locked in for, so my parents decided that a whole weekend locked in my room was a fair and just punishment. and also my parents said that as i am a little behind with my school work, my parents made me spend many hours at my desk doing school work, they said this was to benifit me and not just to punish, i must admit i HATED being locked up its a MISREABLE punishment, my sister says of course i deserved to be punished ?

Ahhhh... then, that is different - her being Claustrophobic. Yeah, that was cruel...even one hour would have been. So, presumably she came out somewhat traumatised, as well as missed her lesson? So what were you so angry about, that you wanted to hurt her that severely, anyway? It must have been something serious? Or not that serious on its own, but a case of 'the last straw that breaks the camel's back'? What happened? And how is she now - generally as well as around you?