Is he just being stubborn or is it the end?

Hi i split up with my boyfriend of little over 3mths just 2weeks ago,we met on a dating site & hit it off straight away,i guess it moved pretty quickly & it felt like we'd known each other years!He was open with his feelings from pretty much the start & told me he'd fallen for me after the 2nd date,which made me back off cause it felt a bit much as i had came out of a marriage only a year previous...we were seeing each other upto 3-4 times per week but it would have been more if id have let him...inbetween the times i wasnt seeing him i would ignore his texts/calls which could last from anything from a few hours to a couple of days (crazy i know) and he couldnt get his head round why i was doing it as we were fine when he left!but it was when he had gone i was almost convincining myself that we shouldnt be together,which was insane to think as he is a great guy & i know i should have just gone with what felt right..deep down im just so scared of getting hurt again (saying that im hurting badly over loosing a good thing,through my own 'self destruct' button) it got even more frequent a month ago & he was in pieces over it!he said he couldnt stand been on this emotional rollercoaster i had us on any longer & now the tables have been turned where hes ignoring me!im so upset over this & just wish i had have gone about it differently...what do you recommend to do now?i did text him a lengthy message a week ago explaining my insecurities & that im scared of getting close to somebody & he said i could go over,but dosent see what difference it will make me going over (hes just had a knee op so cant leave the house).I couldn't make it that night so i said i would go the following day but when i text him to see if i could still go over he's never replied to me,and its 8days days later & heard nothing!...do you think this is the end for us & that i just move on?i cant help wondering why he wanted me to go over but then obviously thought differantly the next day :/ could it be hes giving me a taste of my own medicine or hes just had enough?i also keep thinking that he must be thinking about me just as i am him cause we both love each other very much...i just wish he could forgive me : (( Thanks in advance for any replys

No dont give up you have to put yourself in his shoes. You hurt him, he opened up too you and you showed him you didnt want it. Hes badly hurt and in ignoring you he is trying to prove hes hurt. If you really think you messed something truly special up than dotn give up my friend. Try visiting without asking and talk to him face to face. Men like the attention that is why we ignore like this. Good luck to you and if you think hes really special go for him never let soemthing special go away easy you never know what you couldve thrown away. It took me a year to trust another female after my other one cheated on me with my own cousin.. Now i have an amazing girl. Good luck to you! hope this helped!

Thank you so much for your understanding & positive reply,it means alot : ) your right,i know ive hurt him badly,he told me if i treated him like it again then he wouldnt be able to take it anymore,i could even tell in his voice on the phone that he was deeply hurt and only 4days after i promised i wouldnt,i did it again just 3days before his op (unbelievable i know) & i think this is whats hurt him aswell!he is such a great guy,weve had lots of great times together,i just wish so much i could make him believe i wont ever treat him in that way again & that i dont want to loose him : (( something i had forgot to mention aswell was that we had both came out of longterm relationships a year before we met,his was 13yrs and mine 11yrs & neither of us had felt this way about anyone else until we met one another...we both had very similar profiles which made us laugh cause neither of us wanted anything serious,but yet when we first met we instantly clicked & we fell for each other bigtime!think this is what scared me the most because i guess i didnt expect to feel that way about someone so quick,just as he didnt but he just went for it (which is what i should have done,rather than push him away).I think its a good idea just calling on him,but dont think im brave enough,dont think i could handle the rejection if he decides to not answer the door,he lives 30mins drive away so maybe he wouldnt do that...jeez ive got allsorts spinning in my head!...sounds like you\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\'ve had it tough too,but im pleased to know everything has turned out well for you!im a firm believer in everything happening for a reason,even if we dont know what the reason is at the time,it comes to light one day!...i haven\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\'t been in touch with him since i asked if i could still go to his (which was 8days ago but feels like forever)i desperatly want to sort this out with him,i cant help thinking aswell that its been real bad timing with him having his knee operation which i know was bothering him because he is unable to work for 3mths plus & cant drive for 3-4wks!..its looking bleak for him to get in touch with me,so i know ive got to do something!...thanks again for your reply!

Hmmm apologies for all the \\\ don't know how that happened lol